Stress Eating

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Kim Gravel: So we're recording. We're recording in our new studio.

Zac Miller: You're a little close to the mic, Kim.

Kim Gravel: Well, you're a little shiny.

Zac Miller: I am a little shiny here. Now I'm feeling conscious. What do you think? How do I look?

Kim Gravel: No, look. Let me come here. Let me do it. Just get you shiny. Have you ever used easy peasy?

Zac Miller: No.

Kim Gravel: Well this is our, Oh yeah, that's nice. This is your shade. It's called fair.

Zac Miller: That's fair. That's fair.

Kim Gravel: That looks good. If it were oh, thank you. And you didn't my as couple and you didn't No. And I'm proud of you because you did not wear a flannel or a dark shirt.

Zac Miller: I'm gonna up my shirt game for season two.

Kim Gravel: Zac is live in the studio.

Zac Miller: Hi everybody.

Kim Gravel: Okay, so he is here.

Zac Miller: And you're producing this episode, right, Kim?

Kim Gravel: Well, as long as you tell me what I need to do.

Zac Miller: How about this? How about this? How about this? Ready? Read that.

Kim Gravel: Oh my gosh. Hey y'all, and welcome to LOL with Kim Gravel, a podcast for women. I am Kim Gravel, and this is Zac.

Zac Miller: I'm Zac. Hello.

Kim Gravel: We're in studio together for the very first time.

And what we do at this comedy podcast is we talk about the messiness of life. And how to turn that mess into your message. So my mission is to encourage everybody, especially women to embrace their real selves and laugh about the stuff that life throws our way. So if you're ready, you ready?

Zac Miller: I'm ready.

Kim Gravel: Let's do it. Let's live out loud. Laugh out loud and love out loud together.

Let's talk about why we did this new setup, because I'm so excited because in season two we are taking LOL with Kim Gravel to a new level, both with guests and new sets and new exciting things.

Zac Miller: I wanna sound effect so badly.

Kim Gravel: What I'm excited about is that we are doing LOL with Kim Gravel like a TV show. We're streaming. We have the full TV studio here.

Zac Miller: Yeah, we're gonna be doing video on QVC plus.

Kim Gravel: QVC plus is airing LOL each week with video and you know, of course, the entire comedy podcast. So that's why we're doing all of this is to set it up, to get it, to get it going.

Zac Miller: I'm excited.

Kim Gravel: Are you, Zac? You don't like, You don't, This is not making you comfortable.

Zac Miller: I, I just don't know what to do with my body. Like what do you do with your,

Kim Gravel: You try to look as thin as possible. So you lean in. So you lean in, the neck goes in, you kinda lean over, like this, but this. Then you gotta get your mic going. This is the thing about tv.

Zac Miller: Tell me about tv.

Kim Gravel: I've had to learn to literally, Just go with it. Like you can't be self-conscious thinking, How do I look? Am I smiling? Okay, blah, blah, blah. I mean, like I have burped on tv, I've passed gas on tv.

It's true story. Cause I mean, all elder you get the less control you got over anyway. I have you know, especially live tv, you, there's no editing in live tv. You're just kidding. And I'm on live tv, what, four or five hours a week. So that's just a whole different beast. So I don't even really care.

You know, I'm just like, whatever. Get, get the best angle we can with the good lighting and let's just this, you know, a wing and a prayer.

But are you

Zac Miller: trying, like, so you're, you literally, it's just like you're, you're on there and whatever.

Kim Gravel: Whatever happens, happens. Now I will say I have. I, I try to tell my kids this too.

Always be aware of what's going around around. So like people are texting me and Amy is texting me, going, Kim, people want you to ask, answer this question. Sure. And I don't stop and read it. I just kinda see it pop up and then I'll answer the question. You always have to be aware of what all is going on around you, but you can't be self-conscious.

I think that's a big.

Zac Miller: I'm self conscious.

Kim Gravel: Everybody is Zac. I' m not as much anymore, but I'm self conscious. I check it though, right? Like, when I feel myself going into the rabbit hole of what do they think, what do they saying, What do I look like? I try to go, Whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa.

Cuz you, that's what takes you outta your creativity, takes you outta your zone. But I think a lot of people feel that way. I know you don't love being on camera, but doing this comedy podcast and being a part of this brings you joy.

Zac Miller: This brings me joy. I do it well and the thing is like I want to be, I also know that I want to put myself out there more.

Like that's for me, I feel like I want to be more like, I don't know, there's, I have the skills, I have all the video skills, I have all the production skills. I can do the thing. Right? So, you know, am I missing an opportunity by not putting myself out there more? Maybe.

Kim Gravel: Well, I mean today we were talking, had a meeting and I was texting someone that you're gonna be meeting here soon about the show and she's like, Oh my God, Zac, I know Zac.

Zac Miller: I love that. And I we're starting to get emails, Kim. That actually addressed emails that are to me. Like, so they're like, Hey Zac, tell Kim, blah, blah, blah. And I'm, And because they're used, it used to just all be like, hey Kim. Hey Kim.

Like it's just all, that's just fine. Like Right, It's your show. But like now they're like, they know that it's me that's reading the emails first, so they're addressing me.

Kim Gravel: That's the way to do it. This is the whole thing. Like I knew, I know nothing happens alone. Nothing in life that is successful is a one man show. Even comedians who do one man's shows. It's not show, I mean Yeah, totally. So like for me, the team is everything and I think people like seeing the team and people like being part of a team and people want to be a part of something that's greater than themselves. You know. Cuz the world is too, I'm sick of everybody just thinking about themselves and we got to all work together.

Working together is the way to go about it.

Zac Miller: So this season, Kim? So I know you mentioned on the first episode that we were gonna talk about weight loss. So tell me a little more.

Kim Gravel: So I, I am, I'm trying, I'm trying really hard to get healthy, and sometimes it's not just, and I, maybe y'all can relate to this because sometimes it's not just about having the time to prepare food or cook or whatever.

It's the mindset of it. So instead of thinking about what I can't do or what I don't have time to do what I don't have access to. Meaning working out, gym, food, all of that. I'm just gonna add more good things in. So I'm really on this journey. Y'all please come take it with me and let's just try to get healthy, cuz I often, sometimes I get a little jealous of Amy.

Zac Miller: Why?

Kim Gravel: Because she didn't have any kids or husband. No wrinkles, no problems.

Zac Miller: I don't know if she has no problems.

Kim Gravel: Pretty much good life. But you know what I'm saying? Like, but it's so easy for me to make that as my excuse. Right? Like I've, I've really realized something about myself, like, okay, you know, I, I'm a pretty evolved person and I love people and I, you know, I know my faults, okay, but I'm learning some new bad habits about using excuses that I just, yeah, I really am.

Playing tricks with myself.

Zac Miller: Excuses to other people or excuses to yourself,

Kim Gravel: To everybody. To myself, to, you know, I'm a stress eater , and I'm a, a emotional eater and that means good emotion or bad, it don't matter just as long as it's an emotion. And so I'm, I'm having to really kind of like tap into that and see, you know, how I can not control it, but kind of release it and let it go.

Business has been a good excuse for.

When it comes.

Zac Miller: Cause you're like, I'm too busy, I'm just gonna do whatever. I'm just gonna eat what's in front of me. I'm just gonna like, I mean, it's like,

Kim Gravel: it's been a good excuse.

Zac Miller: It's like when I, when I used to travel for work, right? It's like I would just eat whatever crap I could.

Right? I mean, even on this trip, I'm just like, Oh great. Like, bring it on. Like, you know.

Kim Gravel: But it's almost like you don't have to,

Zac Miller: No, you don't have to. But but that's part of the fun. Like, you let yourself, like, you let yourself off the hook.

Kim Gravel: I'm not there. You're letting yourself I am borderline addict.

And not to the food. Oh God, this is a breakthrough right here. Not to the food or not to, to the excuses. Wow. And that's a little bit deeper than just. Creating bad habits?

Zac Miller: Well, yeah, say more about that. So if you're addicted to the excuses you, like you're saying, you like having the excuse to fall back on.

Kim Gravel: Yes.

Zac Miller: I'm so busy. I so stressed. There's so many things piling on that this is how I'm like this, My next step is what, what is your, then what do you do

Kim Gravel: my next step? Because like you, you see all obviously just say no. It's okay to say no, right to things and thing. And that's true. There's nothing wrong with that.

But I don't think it's about saying no. I think it's about, for me, it's about balance. I don't know if I like balance. I don't know if I'm not slightly addicted to that excuse chaos space. That's what I'm kind of like figuring out. Like there's something about me that likes, How about I'm so bad, it's not about what I'm eating. That's the addiction. It's that loving that kinetic, high energy, chaotic feeling.

Zac Miller: We love that. I get that.

Kim Gravel: Does that make sense?

Zac Miller: That makes sense. Cuz I totally feel that way too. I sense to you. I totally feel that way too. And I, you know, I think we a lot a different way. I think we all do that.

Kim Gravel: Tell me what you, you're,

Zac Miller: I think we all do that. I mean, I think, like for me, like I, I'm a procrastinator, right? And, and it's like the double edge sort of like being a perfectionist and being a procrastinator. So it's like, you wanna do it last minute, but then I'll let myself stay up till three in the morning doing it.

And I'm getting it cause, cause like I'm always gonna do it.

Kim Gravel: So you're addicted to the deadline?

Zac Miller: And it's like, so it's like, I'll push it and it's like all day. I'll know I have to get drama of it. Just the, Or it's like, it's like, Oh, I know I have to edit this ol episode. And all day I will be like, the thing that I'm obsessing over. Obsessing over, and then I'll wait until it's like, you know, the kids are asleep and it's 10 at night. And I'll be like, I gotta go finish that episode and then I'll be episode. And I tortured myself all day.

Kim Gravel: And then you're torturing stuff all night.

Zac Miller: And then, And then I am up late and then I'm, And then I'm a mess.

Kim Gravel: We need to get somebody on to talk about this. Because I think this, and it's, And it's patterns and it's habits and it's so easy to sit there and go, Let's just go to the gym, right? And just do the work on time.

I mean, it's so, but I don't think that's my problem, right? I don't think, It's not that I don't wanna eat great or go to the gym. It's not, I don't think that's what the problem is. Because if it was that easy, we would flip the switch on or flip the switch off and we would do it.

Zac Miller: Well, I was just reading a book about like Changing Your Habits.

Kim Gravel: Uh, Atomic Habits books.

Zac Miller: Yes.

Kim Gravel: I've got that book too. Oh my God, I love that book.

Zac Miller: It's a great book.

Kim Gravel: I've only read chapter one.

Zac Miller: I finally got the Audible subscription, so like I'm listening to it.

Kim Gravel: Is it really good? Because I bought it like six months ago.

Zac Miller: It's really good.

Kim Gravel: I know it's really good. Oh my God. I'll read it.

Zac Miller: Okay, so, what he's saying in the book is if you make the thing you wanna do really easy, Right?

Kim Gravel: Oh, that makes sense.

Zac Miller: Then you do it. So, in other words, he. You know, if you wanna go like workout first thing in the morning, like sleep in your workout clothes, he's like, Why not just sleep?

Kim Gravel: I don't dunno if I am buying that.

Zac Miller: And then you like, so you wake up and it's just, there's no,

Kim Gravel: I sleep naked. So that ain't gonna work for me.

Zac Miller: Okay, well, you could work out .

Kim Gravel: That definitely is not gonna work out for me. . I mean, I hear that that's logical, but you're saying, right? So tell me there's more to the book than that,

Zac Miller: There's more to the book than that. But it's that, it's a lot of little, like, practicality. The practicality, like you make it easier for yourself to, to make change in your own. Because this is, this, this up here.

Kim Gravel: Oh my God. It's the power, It's the engine. It's the everything and it's powerful.

Zac Miller: We've talked about that a lot.

Kim Gravel: Well, you know what, like, I mean, I said the word addiction and Yeah. You know, I've had so many people who've, who've struggled with addiction and, and family members of friends have struggled with addiction. People in my own family have struggl with addiction. So I can recognize the patterns in myself and I think we're all addicted to something.

Zac Miller: Yeah, I think so too.

Kim Gravel: I think it is how we're hardwired.

Zac Miller: That's really interesting.

Kim Gravel: I'm addicted to the chaos. I'm addicted to my excuses. Probably many other things too, but that's just where I'm honing in.

Zac Miller: But the other thing I think Kim is like, you know, from, for me, as someone who knows really well, but is also still an outsider, it's like, You give like your all to people like, and like whoever's in front of you, like you, you like, you'll pour into someone who's in front of you and then an hour will go by or whatever.

Cuz you're like really, You're in it with them And then you know, an hour went by and now your day is shot because it's like, you know, you didn't do the 10 other things you'd do that day. That's prob that's how I kind of feel.

Kim Gravel: But am I giving my all to somebody when I'm in front of them? Zac?

I mean, it's my natural, gifting from God, but because I'm trying to, Is that an excuse?

Zac Miller: Well, that's what I'm wondering about.

Kim Gravel: See, that's what I'm trying to tell you.

Zac Miller: Is that part of your addiction?

Kim Gravel: That's what I'm trying to say. Because it's easy, of course, it's easy to eat dessert, every single meal. So for me, my dessert is sitting out, pouring into people, seeing people rise to where it it, it really sometimes causes me to stumble personally.

Zac Miller: So it's it's a detriment to yourself.

Kim Gravel: I think there's so many women out there that give to their kids, their communities. Their busyness is their addiction, like what I'm dealing with right now?

And I don't know that you and I don't have the same addiction. Because like you're sitting here, I don't know if your addiction is procrastination, but it is that rush of just, I'm so busy. I'm so busy, I'm so busy. I'm so busy, I'm so busy. And you do it to yourself cuz it's like, you know, oh, it's torture.

Zac Miller: Like, you know, you can make yourself as busy as you want to be. You could anything can take any amount of time.

Kim Gravel: I'm, I'm here and going to be really, really psycho transparent right now. No, I'm telling you. Cause this just happened the other day. So I'm never off, right?

And y'all. I say that and I'm not providing myself and go, Oh, I'm a workaholic. I'm not that person. Right? But, but all of us, most of us swimming, and I'm gonna say men too, okay, But most of us women out there are never off, right? Because Zac, honestly,

Zac Miller: You're always on the clock. You're always on the clock. You're always on the clock.

Kim Gravel: We're always on the clock. How many times sitting here have you thought about your girls while we've been taping this?

Zac Miller: Oh, multiple times.

Kim Gravel: Really? Cause you're like one of the few men on the earth that do.

Zac Miller: No, I know. I do.

Kim Gravel: I've been sitting here like five seconds going, how did Beau's thing go tody, are they going to play tennis? Did I lay the pork chops out? Did Travis put them in the freezer? Did he put 'em in the refrigerator? Because .

Zac Miller: I'm not like that. I'm not the nitty gritty. I'm just like,

Kim Gravel: I'm not talking about that. That you don't love your girls. I, I mean, I want you to be honest with me. Like, have you sat here and gone through your to-do list with your family?

Zac Miller: No. I haven't, but I, but I have thought like, I really hope they had a good day because like, I'm not there.

Kim Gravel: That's lovely. But you're not sitting here thinking about the responsibilities of everything.

Zac Miller: But I'm also not home.

Kim Gravel: But that's my point. Yeah, that's my point about women. Is that our minds men too. I'm just saying for, for me, my mind is never at peace. I have to purposefully pursue peace for my mind. And when I don't. Oh, baby . It's not good for anyone around me.

So like this morning, I, I did not pursue that piece and so I got up and everything was disarray and the day just went haywire. And so I think that's what I'm addicted to. I'm addicted to that.

I'm addicted to the chaos. To that angst? To that. Oh my God, My God, My God. Can you relate?

Zac Miller: I can, yeah, I can relate. I think it's different. I think it is different for women. I think there's a mental load. I think there's a mental load that women carry. Like even when you have a like really attentive husband. I think, but I, but I see, you know, there's just a, just feeding the family. Like if you, you know

Kim Gravel: what, like what are we going eat? I mean, how many times I've thought about pork chops just sitting here. I'm gonna read that. What other things from the book did you read that it was, that helped you?

Zac Miller: He talks about the 1% change, right?

Kim Gravel: Oh, I like that.

Zac Miller: And he talks about, if you make things 1%, better every day and 1% is tiny, 1% is like, you know, oh, nothing. This is, you know, let's move this over here. 1%. 1% is tiny. It's like, okay, like I'm stressed about my house being so dirty, I'm gonna pick up one thing.

Right? But if you do that every single day, over time, that 1% becomes. You know, 300 plus percent and it, and it grows and grows and it accumulates, grows and accumulates.

Kim Gravel: This, it's like, it's consistency. It's like compounding interest.

Zac Miller: It accumulates. So,

Kim Gravel: but don't you think like, okay, cuz now you just encouraged me, Right? Because I'm sitting here thinking, Okay, if I get up every day and do 10 minutes of walking in the neighborhood on the treadmill or jogging in, But every day

Zac Miller: he would even say, Okay, don't even start by doing 10 minutes. He would say like, That's too much. It could like you could, You totally could. The book is literally like, start by just putting your walking shoes on every morning. Like, that's it. That's all you do. And if you put your walking shoes on every morning for a week, at the end of that week, you're gonna be like, This is dumb. I'm gonna start walking. And at the end of that you're gonna be like okay, this is done. Like, I'm gonna walk, like for, you know, instead of one minute for 10 minutes or five minutes, you know, And then you're, you're just gonna get, It's just gonna build and build.

Kim Gravel: We've gotta get him on the show.

Zac Miller: Yeah, we should. It's called Atomic Habits books by James Clear.

We're gonna call you. We need you. So tell us how to do your atomic habit so we can

Kim Gravel: No, I'm doing this. But let's do it together.

Zac Miller: Okay, let's all do this together.

It's thundering?

Kim Gravel: Oh yeah, it's thundering. . You wanna go eat? We'll start our habit tomorrow.

This is so great. I'm so glad we did this show together. I'm glad you're here. Me too. I'm excited about. The new season. I'm excited about a streaming LOL with Kim Gravel on QVC in my streaming channel. It's gonna be an amazing opportunity to do the video and we want, we got some new fun things to interact with you with as well.

So stay tuned everybody. Now zac, how can everybody get ahold of us?

Zac Miller: So send us an email to lolwithkimgravel@gmail.com, or you can call us and leave us a voicemail call. We love to hear your voices. It's so much better than reading emails. We love to hear from you.

The number is 4 0 4 9 1 3 6 4 6 0. You don't have to talk to anybody. Just call, leave us a voicemail and we'll play it on the show.

Kim Gravel: Yeah, call us and leave us a voicemail. It'll be fun and. Then we're gonna have some new fun things maybe to interact where people can be part of the show.

We're going to start doing that.

Should we? We talk about that later. . .

Zac Miller: We'll save that for later. We're saving that for later. We're gonna, we're gonna do some really amazing things around building a community around this show.

Cause we have such an amazing community.

Kim Gravel: I know people, Let me tell you something. We all are in this together.

And so we all have to make sure, like maybe you've got, you know, maybe you're ready to do a new health journey or we ready to stop procrastinating, or if you just wanna like laugh and tell us your funny story about your family or kids, let us know. Tell us, reach out to us cuz we want to hear from you.

Because we're all in this together. Always remember, uh, you've got a friend and us, we're here for you. We're here with you and we can do this together. So let's do it. Let's live out loud, Laugh out loud and love out loud together.

So many great people helped make this show possible. LOL is produced by Zac Miller from Uncommon Audio. Our associate producer is Kathleen Grant at Brunette Exec. Production help from Emily Bredin. Love you, Emily. And our cover artist is designed by Sara Noto and Mike Kligerman.

Love you. Mike edits all of our shows. So head over to lolkim.com to sign up for our mailing list. Thanks so much for listening, and we love you. Bye bye.