The One Decision That Helped Me Lose 37 Pounds | Part 1

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Kim Gravel: Coming up on The Kim Gravel Show this whole entire time, decades, y'all 20 over 20 years. I was trying to lose the same weight. I've just lost in two and a half months because I was idolizing, worshiping, focusing on whatever you want to call it, the struggle and losing that weight.

Opening Introduction: Let's just go on and spill the tea. This is The Kim Gravel Show. This is one of the realest persons I've ever met in my darn life. You gotta watch this. My mission is to encourage every single woman, we're here to lift y'all up. There's no one more effective than moms. You mess with the bull. You going to get the horns. I need coffee. I need Jesus and I need therapy. If you can bring a smile to people's faces, why would you not? We love our kids. We love our husbands. What a blessing. We're gonna dedicate this to you in finding your superpower. Okay girl. True confidence is knowing who you are and why you're here.

Kim Gravel: Hey y'all and welcome to The Kim Gravel Show. I'm so glad you're here and especially today because during this entire season we are leveling up our lives and we're doing it together. Stepping into that purpose just one step at a time and today's show is very personal to me. Zac, we're back. We're doing it.

Here we are. Welcome, Zac. Yeah, we're here.

Zac Miller: Hi, Kim.

Kim Gravel: I missed you. You moved all the way across the country.

Zac Miller: I'm in my new studio, Kim.

Kim Gravel: You're in your new studio and, It looks just like the old studio.

Zac Miller: It looks just like the old studio.

You had a vacation. How does it feel rejuvenated?

Kim Gravel: I went to England. We took the kids, you know, to Buckingham Palace.

Zac Miller: Best British accent right now.

Kim Gravel: Oh, gosh, I was going to say top of the morning to you, but I think that's the Irish.

Zac Miller: I got it. That counts.

Kim Gravel: The great thing about it is when we went to England and, you know, I took my 16 year old and my 14 year old and then my 52 year old. and we traveled all over and Amy went with us too. And so it was a trip of a lifetime and we went everywhere and they went to Wimbledon several days because, you know, they're avid tennis players.

But, my oldest son came back talking in a British accent. So he thinks he's British. I mean, you know, he sounds smarter and I think that I should have been royal. I really do.

Zac Miller: You've just been chasing crowns too long, Kim.

Kim Gravel: I'm sorry. I'm telling you, I told Amy, I said, Amy, I truly think I should have been.

Some kind of royalty is some, some place somewhere in this world. And she goes, well, I'm telling you, you're not.

Zac Miller: Thank you. Amy. I love Amy so much.

Kim Gravel: We got to see so many things. And of course we didn't eat because these people don't eat. I'm like, where is the Kit Kat bar? I mean, I just can't just run down and get you a pack of M& Ms.

I mean, that's just not like, so, you know, the first thing we did when we got, you know, landed, I went and got me a pack of peanut M& Ms, but it was so much fun. It was a trip of a lifetime, but when I came back and got on air, we were inundated with, Oh my gosh, Kim, you've lost so much weight and Zac, I have lost 37 pounds.

Zac Miller: Wow. Hold on. I need to do that.

Kim Gravel: So when I came back and I get great Kim, well, this is the thing now you don't have to play with the funny camera angles that I always insist on you doing because Not any angle works. We came back and had to take pictures for, you know, something we had on QVC. And Amy goes, Oh my God, the pictures took like five seconds.

So we're like, Oh my God, these pictures are so easy. Cause you're thin. Let me just say, because you're thinner. Let's just get crazy. Let's not get crazy.

Zac Miller: Wait, but so, all right. So how'd you do it? Like, tell us.

Kim Gravel: Well, I've started eating my factor meals and I did something that I've never consciously done before that.

I want to talk about on today's show. There's a, there's a process. I want to talk to everyone listening to me right now about what I've done. I didn't even know I was doing it until I looked back. I'm going to give you step by step of how I, myself and my oldest son really changed The trajectory of our lives, but you got to come back after this break to hear it.

You don't want to miss it. This is going to be a game changing episode for you. I've been sharing this with all of my friends and all of my family and people that I've come in contact with. And if you'll receive it and really listen with an open heart and an open mind. And allow God to speak to you through this, these stories I'm going to share with you after the break.

I truly believe it can happen for you, too. We'll be right back.

Zac Miller: All right, Kim, we've been getting so many great five star reviews on the show. I want to read you another one.

Kim Gravel: Listen, I love a good five star review.

Zac Miller: I'm going to read it to you, and then I want you to review the review. Okay? This is the little review game that we are starting to play.

Here's a poster of you recently got from, and you'll like this name, okay? Not Techie. That's the username.

Kim Gravel: Oh god, I can relate to that.

Zac Miller: Alright, she wrote, Love, love, love. I watch QVC and get... pepped up from Kim all the time, and I love her clothes. Now I found her podcast, and my dream is to one day meet her.

This podcast is really helping me right now, and I'm sharing it with friends.

Kim Gravel: Well, I give her five stars because I say we make the meet and greet happen. We should get together and do some break bread, talk, do something. I love it. This is the whole thing. If you feel when you are listening to the podcast, The Kim Gravel Show podcast, and you feel inspired, encouraged, uplifted.

That's our goal, right? Zac, that's what we want you to do. It's not about us. It's not about. It's just about even though it's not about the content, I mean, we want you to have good content, but we want you to feel better about you when you click off of our podcast. So if that is you, right, Zac, they can go review.

Zac Miller: Yeah, go review. That's it. If that's you, go review. If that's you, then go review. Give us five stars on Apple, on Spotify, on our website, kimgravelshow.com. And maybe we'll review your review on the next episode of The Kim Gravel Show.

Kim Gravel: OK. All right, we're back. I'm telling you, it's been a transformational summer for me, Zac.

I mean, not only did I go to England and almost meet the king. Can I just tell you, can we just talk about I'm not even gonna ask. I'm not even gonna ask. Before we dive in, it's like, like, the royal, the royal family, all of that, it's, it's weird. Right? Cause you know, we're Americans and so everybody is just get out there and do your thing and did it.

It's like, it's, I mean, and they are very pro Royal family. Everything revolves around that. The tourism, the And the buildings, the architecture, oh my gosh, like the beauty. It was inspiring. It was inspiring. I came back inspired, but I got to tell you, I was inspired before that. And I want to tell you, I've lost 37 pounds and, people are noticing, you know, I've got back on QVC and people are noticing and how are you doing it?

And so I wanted to make this podcast because it's not. what you think. It's how it happened is not a typical, you know, weight loss program or workout program or any of that. it started the beginning of May. So I've lost 37 pounds since May, June. And then what, what are we now? July? What, what's today's date?

Zac Miller: Well, we're recording end of July. And this is going to come out end of August.

Kim Gravel: Well, no, this isn't the end of July. This is the 20th of July. So I've lost 37 pounds since May, June into the 20th of July. So I'm sitting here. So it's been two and a half months. And I have been trying to lose this 30 pounds for 20 years.

 20 years. So it's not like, how do you go from 20 years to two and a half months?

Zac Miller: To actually doing it.

Kim Gravel: Yeah, I'm going to start with a story. So my son was, you know, he plays basketball and if we've heard the book, I mean, the basketball journey with bow has just been torture. I mean, it's just been one of those things where it's been the most learned lessons of the kids life.

I don't know what the heck is going to happen with this kid. You know, I mean, he's not trying to go to the NBA or anything or even play college, but it's just like high school ball, but it has been a torture since the sixth grade. It's just, it's been an, just an absolute brick around my waist dragging me down.

And, but here's another basketball story. So God uses it. So we're going to go with it. So, at the end of. I think it was the end of like, mid June. So I'd started in May on this weight loss journey. And then mid June, Beauis going to camp. He was going to basketball camp and playing in some tournaments.

And he's made the varsity team and so la la la la la. He's a junior. And so he's, you know, there's seniors ahead of him and whatever. Well, and he, he goes to the, the basketball tournament and he plays and what have you, the first day. And so the second day. he sits the bench, which, hey, look, can't be in all the time, can't win them all the time, all of that.

That's not what's important. What's important was he sat the bench and then fast forward when he's at home telling us the story. And. I was taken back about his, his calmness when he was telling me the story. He said, you know, mom, the second day I got up and he's telling Travis and I, and he goes, and I was sitting on the bench and actually there was a ninth grader playing ahead of him, you know, and they pulled up a JV player and started playing ahead of him.

And he said, I started getting angry. He said, and I started getting upset. He said, he even said, it started pissing me off, Mom. I mean, he even said the word piss, which he normally doesn't. And normally I'd slap his face, but he, you know. He's in a story, so I'd let him complete it. And, and he said, and I thought to myself, I said, Bo, and he goes, Mom, I was like talking to myself about myself.

And, you know, he didn't have the words to talk about subconscious or conscious. And he said, I even like. I was watching myself sit on the bench. Whoa. And he said, I was sitting there watching myself get upset on the bench. He goes, in my mind, in my mind, mom. He goes, don't think it's weird. It's in my mind.

And I knew exactly what he was talking about, but, because I had just had something similar happen to me about my weight loss. And so, I just let him finish. And he said, I just, I just decided. No, I'm not going to get upset. I'm on the varsity team. And I got to play yesterday and I'm just going to be here and support my team.

I'm not going to get upset. He said, mom, two minutes later, the coach puts me in and I play the whole entire game, the rest of the games, the whole rest of the weekend. And I said, and I'm sitting there going, Oh my God, this is so great. I'm sitting here as a mom going. Oh my gosh, this is so amazing. You know, of course I show no emotion.

I said, well, son, why I'm trying to be calm. Cause you are crazy.

Zac Miller: Like I got to play cool with these kids.

Kim Gravel: That's how I got to be mature and I said, well, what do you think happened? He goes, I just decided he said, and then

I got to play and I thought to myself, that's what happened to me with my weight loss. I woke up one morning in May. I think it was like the first week in May. I've got it written out of my journal and I just decided I'm doing it. And for the next two and a half months my body just caught up with that decision.

That's cool. What's happening was this whole entire time. Decades, y'all. 20, over 20 years, I was trying to lose the same weight I've just lost in two and a half months because I was idolizing, worshiping, focusing on whatever you want to call it, the struggle in losing that weight. I put the struggle on the pedestal.

Zac Miller: Kim!

Kim Gravel: Right? So what am I saying when I said that? What did you just take from what I just said?

Zac Miller: The struggle. is one of the things that is a story that you tell about yourself. The struggle is the thing that defines it.

Kim Gravel: The struggle was what I basically worshipped.

Zac Miller: The struggle. You worshipped the struggle.

You wanted the struggle. The struggle was comforting. The struggle was part of who you were.

Kim Gravel: The struggle was the focus.

Zac Miller: Whoa, Kim! Oh my gosh. All right. You're blowing my mind right now because I'm thinking about, like, I'm already thinking about the like 10 things I do this to myself about, right? Oh my gosh.

Kim Gravel: There's so much to break down here and it might be a two episode show, but I want people to sit with that for a second. Because it was such an eye opener for me and I didn't know that about myself until my son had said his story because he said, I just decided. Yeah, and y'all that's what's happening.

We are so we're buying the self help books. We're buying the the workout programs We're but and all of that is Fantastic. We have all the knowledge. We haven't made the decision. Yeah, right We have all the knowledge at our fingertips. We've got the eating plans. We've got the financial plans on how to do this.

We know what we need to do. And if we don't know what we need to do, all we got to do is find out, Google it, whatever, look it up. We've got the knowledge, but we haven't made the decision. Make the decision. Okay? I'm going to tell you this quote. This is, this is the quote and I love it. I love God because he's always confirming in me what he's trying to teach me and he does it.

He can teach you through anything, but he's all. And when I say teach, I mean, instruct, I mean. It's not information. Okay, because I'm going to get there. I'm going to get there because we hear hard work and the grind and all that. We're going to get there. Just hold on.

Zac Miller: I want you to break this down like every single step.

Kim Gravel: Like I said, we might not be able to break it down all here. We might not be able to break it down here. Because there's three steps to what I have been set free. It's not been I've lost weight. I have been set free. My mind has been set free about this 30 something pounds. It's no longer an anchor. It's no longer.

I don't worship it. It's no longer a struggle for me ever. It's never going to be again because I've learned this process. I decided. Let me tell you about decision. And so a lot of you haven't made the decision yet. You're trying and you're doing this and you're doing this, but you haven't decided.

Decisions decide destiny. Decisions decide destiny. There is no action without decision. So what has happened is you're trying to take action before making a decision.

Zac Miller: Let me make sure I understand this. So if, if I want to make, if I want to take action first, I need to decide what, what do I need to decide the outcome?

Kim Gravel: Yes. Yes. What happened was that morning I woke up and in my journal I was reading back and I noticed my gosh I say the same thing every day every day. I write in this book and every day I'm saying I want to lose weight I want to lose weight every single day. I'm gonna show y'all the journal. I'm gonna bring it next time I'm gonna read it from page to page.

It was the same Narrative. I was saying it over and over and over and over again, and it was just becoming my reality. I say this all the time. My mom says every year on her birthday. She's lying. Got 10 good years left. But do you know what she's doing every single year? She is prolonging her life another 10 years because she says that.

I mean, that's what she believes. So she's been saying this since she's been in her fifties.

Zac Miller: Can I just say that's like kind of a Jewish thing? Because like we have the Jewish people have a holiday where you say you want to be written in the book of life for the next year. So like you wish everybody that they're going to be written in the book of life and that's like exactly the same thing that your mom is doing just in a different way.

Kim Gravel: She's deciding. She's deciding. I'm telling you, it sounds so simple, but it's so true. Beau sat on the bench and just decided. He decided, I ain't doing this. This is what's wrong. One of the many reasons, and I don't want to, I don't want to stay here because y'all, I'm not a psychologist and counselor, you've heard me say that a million times, I will continue to say, I'm just talking from my personal experience here, that's all I'm speaking from, and I've talked to so many people since I had this experience.

This eyeopening revelation in my life. I've talked to Amy about her weight loss. I've talked to a friend of mine that was struggling financially. She was focusing on her debt, her debt, her debt, her debt. And you know who you are, if you're watching this, her debt. And she said, I just decided not to focus on the debt and just focus on the abundance that I have.

And the debt just caught up, went away. That's what happened. See, so what happened was I made the decision. That you know, I'm tired of having this narrative. I'm just going to change my narrative. I'm just going to decide I'm going to do it. And then my body caught up with that decision.

Zac Miller: That's so cool, Kim.

I love that so much.

Kim Gravel: Because how can you struggle for two decades to lose the same 30 something pounds and then do it in two and a half months with no effort whatsoever? Absolutely. No struggle to lose this 37 pounds. It's been the easiest thing I've ever done. Because you've got to understand what I'm saying, because you're just like, well, I'm saying just made a decision.

You've got to understand the mental strength about what I'm talking about. And the beautiful thing about the Beau story was it was very methodical for him. His mind was stronger than his feeling. So when, when, when the mind speaks to the heart and the feeling. Everything will follow. He decided in his head and then he directed his feelings.

So what I was writing in my journal every day was how I felt about my struggle. So when I woke up and read the, the, all of that over the past year, I'm like, I, that was just me writing from January to May. Oh my God, I've been writing the same narrative for decades. When I said, no, today I'm going to decide I'm just going to lose the weight.

I wrote in my journal, I've already lost the weight. I've already lost this weight. I'm moving on. Whoa. It was then, here's step two, I was able to take massive action.

And when you say hard work or massive action, what would you rather have?

Zac Miller: That's funny because I think in a previous life I would have said hard work, but now 100% action every time. If you're just taking action, you are moving forward. It doesn't matter.

Kim Gravel: Hard work. You're saying, you're listening to all, hard work, the grind, that's keeping you in chains.

Cause it's not that hard. Had a half of a honey bun today.

Zac Miller: Okay, so you haven't changed the way you eat?

Kim Gravel: No, I've just, I've just, I've just cut back. I've just said, I don't, I don't want, my whole taste buds have changed. My whole everything, I didn't cut out all sugar. I didn't cut out all sodas. I still had a Coca Cola this morning.

I didn't cut out anything. I just, I just. I just changed my mindset and I just. Yeah, I'm like, okay, I don't want that.

Zac Miller: So you are cutting back though, like just to, just to be clear. It's not just in your mind.

Kim Gravel: I don't want to say cutting back. I don't want to even say that word.

I've just, I just get full and I don't eat anymore. So you're eating, but you're eating less. You're eating less, but it's not because you're like on this diet and you're starving yourself and you're counting calories and you're like, no, I can't let myself have that. You are just, something has changed with the way that you are.

Zac Miller: Interacting with food and the world around you and your own mind.

Kim Gravel: And I took massive action. I took massive action towards something else because what I was doing, I was doing hard work trying to lose weight and now I just take massive action towards something that I want, not something that I don't want.

I, why was I focusing on the 37 pounds and what I don't want now? I just, what I, what I decided was, you know what? I want to feel better. So I'm going to take a walk. Not to lose weight, just because I want to take action.

Zac Miller: Yeah, so you're exercising, you're walking, you're eating less.

Kim Gravel: I just walked around the neighborhood twice this week, I mean last week, that's it.

Zac Miller: But more, but how many times did you do it the week before?

Kim Gravel: Well, I was walking around London, and then the week before that I just, I took a, I took a walk one time. I'm telling y'all, don't think it's a program, because it's not a program. I made the decision, I took massive action towards things that I want in my life, not things that I don't want, things that I want in my life, and my body has caught up.

And that's number three. When you decide and then you take massive action towards the things that you want in your life, not the things that you don't want. We're focusing on what we don't want. And what we're struggling with, like, it is that important. It's, it's not. You're so right. Focus on what you do want.

And then your body, your environment, everything about it will catch up. So I have a friend, she's my facialist. Her name is Kelly. And I went in and saw her yesterday. And she's lost 50 pounds since May. And, and she has a lot to lose. So she has about another 50 to go and we were talking about this and I said, well, what made you lose the weight?

She said, I don't, I don't know. And she says, but look, and she pulls up a picture of herself that she did of herself in AI. And she said, I put in AI a picture of me and then what I would look like if I lost a hundred pounds. And she said, I got this picture.

Zac Miller: Oh my gosh. And she could see it.

Kim Gravel: I said, well, when did you do that?

She goes, May.

I said, well, what are you doing? What's your program to lose weight? She goes, I really don't have a program. She said, I just, she goes, I saw that picture. I said, oh my God, I want to look like that. She made the decision to look at what she wanted to look like. And then her body now is catching up. Y'all. You don't believe me.

Y'all sitting there judging me. You don't believe a word I said. But I'm telling you right now, that is the 100% gospel truth. I promise you. That's exactly what happened. We sat there over an hour and talked about that. And she was like, Kim, that is so true. I said, so what is taking, she's been trying to lose this weight for over 10 years.

Yeah, because she's 37, because she said, I want my forties to be my best years. She has lost 50 pounds since April to June. That's how many April, May, June, three and a half months. She's lost 50 pounds and she's been trying to do the same 50 pounds. Now look. This can apply to any part of your life, and this is not woo woo, ju ju, whatever, this is, your mind is so powerful.

Thoughts are things. Your body is powerful too, but it will follow the mind. That's why I tell my kids, don't be watching trash. Don't be watching trashy movies and listening to trashy people. Don't, don't be doing that. Cause your body will follow what the mind is, is, is programmed. And I have been programmed, and self programmed for years.

To be in a struggle with 37 pounds and, and, and y'all, it's a limiting belief system because what happens is we break promises to ourselves. We don't trust ourselves.

Because we break promises to ourselves, you know, and ultimately we don't trust God, but I just want to speak to what you can control and if ever say, you say, I'm going to get up and I'm going to work out and I'm going to exercise and you make that promise to yourself and then you don't follow through, then you break that promise to yourself and so you don't trust yourself.

What I'm talking about that day, I made a decision.

I said, this is it. I'm tired. I, I, I broke the cycle of not trusting myself. Yes. And I took action to what I want. And I, and, and y'all, I was like, you know what, I'm going to make my bed today. And I made my bed. And then I built trust in myself and then I said, you know what, I'm going to read a chapter of a book that's been sitting there.

I've been trying to read the book for like two years. How many of y'all have done that? Has anybody done that? Like, I'm going to do this, I'm going to do this, I'm going to do this, and you say it every

Zac Miller: day. I have a book on my counter, on my bedside table right now. I'm on chapter two. I like it. I just never have the time.

Kim Gravel: But this is the thing, or you just don't make the time. Now you said I don't have any time.

Zac Miller: Well, then I'm on TikTok 90 minutes last night. You know, I started watching Hannah Dasher and then I was like, you know, off to the races.

Kim Gravel: Do you see what I'm saying? Do you see what I'm saying? Like, what I'm saying to you is it's not, there's no good or bad with that.

I mean, do, do, fill your time with what you want to, but, but take massive action towards things that you actually want to do and everything else will catch up. People say to me, Kim, how did you become such an entrepreneur? I don't really know. I just decided. I'll never forget it. I woke up and said, you know, I'm going to start this club and that's what we're I had no idea how to do it, who to do it with, when I was going to do it, how to pay for it, how to get into QVC, how I had no idea.

Y'all think it's methodical thought. No, I just decided and everything caught up with that. I met the right manufacturer. I met the wrong manufacturer. I, you know, everything worked. I'm telling you, Bo's sitting in the bench and looking and saying to himself, I'm deciding not to do this. And he was put in, put me in coach, he put him in, and, and that he understood not that I'm playing or not playing basketball because God knows, I can't wait to basketball is finally over, but he learned how he can decide because let's read the quote again, let's read the quote again, read it, read it, decisions, decide destiny, there is no action.

Without decision today, what decision have you not been making to get out of life what you want? I've get so many emails. I've had so many texts. I mean, so many direct messages on Instagram and everything. Kim, how have you lost the weight? How have you lost the weight? And I felt like, oh my gosh, am I just going to be a jerk and just text back and go, I just decided to.

Zac Miller: Right. It's like, oh, I'm probably Yeah, right. Well, I mean, well, we're told that it's hard. We're told that it's hard. There's so many things in life that we're told. Oh, it's really hard to make money. It's really hard to be successful. It's really hard to lose the weight. It's really hard to insert thing.

Kim Gravel: It's not, it just requires a decision and then to take action because what's happening when you're not losing the weight, when you're, when you're talking about it, when you're writing it down, when you're always, it's the perpetual hamster wheel in your mind, that is work.

Zac Miller: Kim. Wait, can I play, can I just like, take a step back for a second?

Like, you know me, like I'm always like skeptical. I'm the skeptic. Right. And I'm not skeptical. And I'm honestly not skeptical of this. Like I feel it. I I'm, I'm getting it, but I also feel like this is also hard. Like this, this is hard, right? Because it's, it's part of you is defined by that struggle.

Part of who you were, you probably had lots of conversations over the last two decades about weight loss and about girl. I just, I wish I could get that 20 pounds off or I wish I could, you know, I mean, I've, I've heard it, right. I've heard it on the show and in your head, of course.

Actually, you lost that and that is comfort. Right. Part of that. And the reason why you say it, even though it's frustrating and it's bad is comforting. Right. Because it's like, Oh, well I'm someone who needs is blank. I'm someone who needs to lose 30 pounds. I'm someone who, you know, just needs the right opportunity.

And then I'll be a big star or whatever, like insert your thing. Right. And. Do you feel like, do you miss that at all, I guess, is the question?

Kim Gravel: No, I'm free. I'm totally free. And not only am I free from the narrative I've got to lose 30 something pounds, but I'm free that I understand this process and now I comply it to other areas in my life.

Because y'all, this is the thing. Everything you need, have, want, and desire, you already possess. There's nothing external that can fill you up and make you or take you down. That only happens internally. Let me say that again. Nothing external can take you down or build you up. That only happens internally.

We are so used to looking outside. Of what happens to us or doesn't happen to us this shift that I'm talking about inside it's, it's, it's supernatural in the fact that God has in his, all of his amazing sovereign mercy has given us such a power in our minds to be a part of of our own solutions to the problems that we have.

He's the ultimate creator, but that's not the show. We're not talking about my faith here. Faith is, is, is, is the, go get collecting confidence. Cause it starts with your faith. I'm talking about, this is, this is something that we're practicing. We're deciding all the time. It's just, now we're going to take absolute control over what we're going to decide for ourselves.

That's what happened to me. That's what happened to Beau. That's what happened to my friend Kelly. Yeah, but we didn't even know it. You know what I'm saying? Beauwas the one who both knew it. He figured that I mean, he when he decided and decided, he saw the decision and saw the results of that. I when I was doing that, that that didn't come to me like that when Kelly just she was deciding and didn't even know that she was doing her AI.

She's like, I want to look like that. She just decided.

Zac Miller: Kim. I was just looking this up. I had this thought as you were talking right now. I was Googling. And I'm on Wikipedia right now. I'm looking at the four minute mile because I actually recently heard on a different podcast, I forget which one they were talking about, the four minute mile, right?

And that people thought for a long time that humans couldn't run that fast. And then as soon as someone did it, then lots of people started doing it. And when something in me sort of clicked, right, like when you were saying your friend looked at the AI photo and she suddenly realized I could look like this, like this is possible, then she can do it.

Kim Gravel: What I'm asking is why didn't people run a four minute mile before? What happened that all of a sudden now that they can just run a five minute mile? Because my question is, did people have to struggle and work out and work hard to all of a sudden run the four minute mile like that dude did?

Zac Miller: It's all mental, right?

Is that what you're saying? Yeah, it's all mental. And now almost 2, 000 people have done it.

Kim Gravel: Right, but that's, that's what I'm saying. How can I go from May to June and lose 37 pounds when I have been trying to do it for decades? Like what? It's 60 days, 60, 70 something days.

Zac Miller: It's like for all the people that have like, that are listening to you and they're like, yeah, well, Kim, what have you done for 20?

You're saying you're trying to lose it for 20 years. Like what have you done? Can you tell us, can you just run through some of the, you don't have to call, I guess, different diets out, but what have you done?

Kim Gravel: I've tried the weight watchers. I've tried, personal trainers. I've tried and done it and done it.

But why is it that I'll do it for two weeks and never do it again? Or I'll do it for a week or whatever and get discouraged and whatever. Why, why was I always doing it? And you know what? My mom said something that she said, it's just, it's the right time. And, and I was like, no, no, no. I mean, there's something to that.

What I'm like, mom, what do you mean? It's the right time. She goes, it's just, you just, it's the right time. What she's saying is you just decide it. Time doesn't decide for us. We decide what we do with our time. Time is not our master.

Zac Miller: It's so hard, especially like, with all the external stuff coming at us, like, I mean, you know, you have kids, I have young kids, like, I feel like I'm a supporting character in their lives.

Right now, right there, the protagonist, I'm the supporting character and I have to be on their clock and, you know, attend to their needs,

Kim Gravel: but that's not true. You're the, you're the, you're the dad. I'm telling you, it's just a way that you look at your life. And, and honestly, a lot of times our decision, we're allowing circumstances, other people, make decisions for us.

Again, my dad said in the book, you're not a fat girl. You're just living like you are. I'm telling y'all this was an absolute breakthrough and I knew it in myself. But when my son came and told me the story and then Kelly, cause I love things in threes, you know, I'm a three person. And so when I was like, I was like, Oh, this is crazy.

And that's talking to Amy. And she was like, Kim, you're right. Because she just decided. Amy's been overweight her whole entire life and she just got up and decided, Amy doesn't have the willpower to go work out. People think she lost weight because she went and worked out. No, that ain't it. She decided she was going to do it because how because you would quit.

She looks amazing. She's still going five days a week. She would quit you.

Zac Miller: She's going five days a week to the gym still. Amy's amazing.

Kim Gravel: Like yeah, we think she she has lost weight because she went to the gym no, she's all sweat because she decided she keeps going to the gym because

Zac Miller: She likes it.

Yeah, she likes it when it makes her feel. I get it. I started it too. So, what would you say, you know, as we sort of start to wrap up this topic, because I think there's so much here and I think we do have to have another episode. I'm going to make you bring your journal and your diary onto the show.

And we'll do that soon. So stay tuned for that, everybody. But, what would you say to people who Aren't there yet that that aren't for whatever reason, like, you know, you 10 years ago, right? You weren't ready to make that. You said your mom said you were ready. What, what are the hacks? What are the, you know, whatever you want to call it, the, the tools, the steps.

How can you start?

Kim Gravel: I don't want to talk about action before you've made your decision. So I think you've got to sit in a place of contemplating and really thinking about. This decision making process, and I think I'll come back to you next week or in a few weeks and we'll really dive into what decision making does and how it affects us and how we are on default with making our decisions, because that was what was happening to me.

It wasn't I was getting up every day and choosing to make the decision to stay in the narrative of I am a fat girl and I need to lose 30 pounds. It was not. I was doing that. It was just. Habit. It was just a default mode that I was, it was going in. It's when I disrupted the default and just made a different decision.

It's when everything else caught up. And so a lot of us are out there taking action before we've made the decision. Decision is directly related to destiny, but destiny, but destiny cannot be seen before a decision is made. And for some of you, it might sound like, Ooh, hard work, hard work. I get it because it's, it's totally opposite than what we have been taught our entire lives.

But I can promise you this. Listen to me, get in close. Everything that has been amazingly successful in my life has not come from hard work.

It has come with ease. There've been obstacles. There've been sleepless nights. I've had to work, but I've enjoyed every minute, every bit of my business, my kids, my home, my relationships. I've really sat and thought about this. Every bit of it started with a decision and then it came to me. And I know everybody's sitting here going, Kim, you are full of it.

Then turn it off. Don't listen to this. But for those of you who are intrigued, or at least a little bit curious, we got to start looking at things differently to get different outcomes, because I'm going to tell you, for a lot of us, the same old, same old, it ain't working, is it? Now, if you're same old, same old is working, keep on doing what you're doing. But if you are sitting here and saying, Kim, I'm depressed, I want to lose 30 pounds, I want to make more money, I want to have more of a full relationship with my marriage, or I want, you know, a better relationship with my kids or whatever.

We you got to start making different decisions. So till next time who's ready to level up?

Me!

Zac Miller: Let's do it. Let's do it.

Kim Gravel: Let's do it together. All right. All right. See ya'll next week.

Zac Miller: Kim Bring your journals.

Kim Gravel: I'm bringing it and make good decisions.

Zac Miller: That's amazing. I mean kim you look great. I mean, you're looking great.

Kim Gravel: I'm at i'm two pant sizes

Zac Miller: That's amazing, Kim. So you're not, so you can't say that you're a loose, 12 and a loose 14? Now you're a tight 10 and a loose 12?

Kim Gravel: No, I'm not loose 12s, I'm a tight 8 and a loose 10.

Zac Miller: Alright.

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