Stop Working For The Weekend & Start Living In The Moment with Rachel Boesing

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Kim Gravel: Coming up on the Kim Gravel show…

Rachel Boesing: You know what? If you're living for the weekend, you ain't living, right? I honestly think that people don't take that jump because they've gotten comfortable with where level of life they're living.

Kim Gravel: I'm afraid to lose my stuff.

Rachel Boesing: I was like, Oh, I can back my stuff up in six boxes.

Let's let's go. There's that element of faith, right? That actually The road stops here. The rest is faith. That last ten, ten blocks, boop, that'll get you to your dream is just faith. I don't have a tattoo for a reason because I can't commit.

 I don't know.

Kim Gravel: Rank your QVC colleagues.

Rachel Boesing: That is never gonna happen. And you know what? I think it's just damn. Oh, pardon. My French.

Kim Gravel: I think you just beat every QVC host that has ever been on this show.

Opening Introduction: Let's just go on and spill the tea. This is The Kim Gravel Show. This is one of the realest persons I've ever met in my darn life. You gotta watch this. My mission is to encourage every single woman, we're here to lift y'all up. There's no one more effective than moms. You mess with the bull. You going to get the horns. I need coffee. I need Jesus and I need therapy. If you can bring a smile to people's faces, why would you not? We love our kids. We love our husbands. What a blessing. We're gonna dedicate this to you in finding your superpower. Okay girl. True confidence is knowing who you are and why you're here.

Kim Gravel: Hey y'all, this is The Kim Gravel Show and I'm Kim Gravel and we are here today and every week to help you level up your life. That's what we want to do. We want to come alongside of you and let's all live our best lives and do it together. Today is. We have somebody on the show, Zac, that she's a QVC host.

She is weekly live with me every Saturday night. It's on QVC. I'm going to tell you her personality, her joy is contagious. She's done so many things and she lives such an adventurous life. You cannot help but listen to this episode and be like, okay, what is my next adventure? You know what I mean?

Just wait till you hear her story. Y'all come back and be with us because none other than QVC host extraordinaire Rachel Boesing is coming on right after this.

Are you stuck? Are you at a place where? You know, there's more for you. You don't know what that is. And you don't even know if you've got the confidence to step out, to even figure out what it is. If that is you pick up collecting confidence, my new book, I'm telling you, if you, if you don't have a compass, if you don't have a true North, if you're saying, Kim, I don't know why I'm here and what I'm here for, but I know it's something grab this book and read it.

It's a light. Easy read, but I'm telling you, it'll give you nuggets and, and reveal things about yourself that you didn't even know. It's not only just my story, it's our story. It's that story of struggle to find out what we're called to do and why we're here. Pick up the book and read it. Then let me know how you, you know, hit me up on email and social media and let me know what you thought about it.

But let me just tell you something. You have a calling, you have a purpose, and you can walk in the confidence to fully embrace that call. I love you guys. And remember, walk boldly in your collected confidence. Okay, I gave you a tease earlier about my very special guest that's here. And the reason I say she's a very special guest, Zac, is so many things.

One, because We do live TV together every single Saturday night, every single week of the year. I mean this, we are soul sisters. We have become like BFF besties. You know her from QVC. Today we're gonna find out how she got here. Cause she was adopted when she was two months old. Two months old and y'all, she's an Ivy leaguer.

She went to Brown. I'm telling you, I'm telling you some smart people up at QVC. I'm not lying. She has an MBA in marketing. Y'all, there's some things you don't know about her. She was an expert roller skater. Okay. Like, like she can roller skate. Okay. She was a broadcaster and a weather girl. Hi, we're your weather forecaster for 15 years.

I love this. Zac. She says she lives. The never been married and no kids lifestyle. Sign me up. She has jumped out of a plane twice. She has ridden in a NASCAR. I want to say that again. She's jumped out of a plane twice. And I love this. Rachel says she has never been more confident as she is in her fifties.

Rachel Boesing. Get your hiney on in here to the Kim Gravel show.

Okay, wait a minute, rachel. No, we gotta hear that again. Cause that sounded a little country to me. Do it, do it.

Zac Miller: That's a little.

Rachel Boesing: I love it. I love it. Okay. Okay. The true story y'all is that I begged to be on this show. Thank you. Please. Oh, please. You have a podcast. Can I come on this show? I want to talk.

Kim Gravel: I love you. I want to talk. I mean, everybody's been asking Rachel. Everybody's been asking, but girl, we was preparing to do this podcast.

I'm like, Oh, my God. What in the heck has Rachel not done? That's the big question. Like people on QVC and people in the world who are your fans that have been following you for years have no idea. Girl, you jumped out of a plane twice. Are you crazy?

Rachel Boesing: I did. You know what? It was super lovely.

 The first time with the fiancé that I'm un fianced because I'm not married.

And the second time. with Jennifer coffee. When I came here,

 I did. We totally did. And, and we both went for like the bigger drop.

Like we were insane. She was like, they're like, do you want the drop from, I don't know, 10,000 feet or the drop from 20,000 feet? I'm making this up and we're like, let's go 20.

And while I'm falling, I'm thinking, was there a reason I asked for four more seconds of fall? Like what in the world?

Kim Gravel: Didn't get enough.

Rachel Boesing: So the second time I was like, you know what? I think I'm tapped out. I think I might be good now.

Kim Gravel: But Rachel, like what makes you want? Cause like you're an adrenaline junkie.

Clearly. I love that. That's, that's, that's, that's your baby. Real life. Yeah, I love it. The welcome to live TV, live podcast, TV, baby

Rachel Boesing: delivery person who's coming right now. Of course. Okay. It's going to calm down. Oh, this is where we cut, cut, cut. I'm so sorry. So you said I'm an adrenaline junkie. What makes me want to be an adrenaline junkie?

 I think I'd like things that are really exciting, theoretically are safe, but they're not. It's not really safe when you sign all those documents, when you're going to jump out of a plane, they're basically like you are jumping out of a perfectly good plane.

You do realize that. So if you splat, it's on you. Don't come for us. So I, I just, you know, I thought it would be exciting. I'd love to bring the juiciness out of every day. It was something that I hadn't done. I feel like I want to do everything at least once. And although I don't think I can base jump, like, I don't think I can walk out on one of those platforms and jump like people do.

Kim Gravel: Well, what's the difference between a plane. That don't make no logical sense to me.

Rachel Boesing: Okay. So when you're on the plane, you're a tandem jump. So you're strapped to somebody. So when your instructor goes out, you're strapped and you're just going, right? There's no, but you both, and they're throwing, you both are. Completely flat, but that little when you're jumping from a little platform, you have to voluntarily walk out and like jump.

I don't have the guts. I and ground somehow is too close.

Kim Gravel: So you're not pushed or strapped to somebody.

Rachel Boesing: It's just me. And I don't, I don't have the guts. I don't have the guts.

Kim Gravel: Well, You got more guts than I've ever had. And I, we have had this conversation on air though. We talked about our roller skating days.

Remember what is that? Base City Rollers, all of that. What was your, like, did you, were you a roller skate rink girl?

Rachel Boesing: All the things, all the things. Bounce Rock Skate Roll, of course. You know, Flashlight, of course. Not just knee deep, she was so knee deep when she was freaking with me. I mean, like, all the things.

 She's a brick house. You know, I mean, you the skating, remember there was like, Snowball, where you'd skate with somebody and then you'd like, You release a couple skate. Oh, absolutely. Then it was the girls as the boys and the boys as the girls. I mean, it was my, it was my life. Like roller skating was my life growing up every Saturday, like church Sunday, Saturday roller skating.

Kim Gravel: I think I had my first makeout session at the roller skating rink. I think his name was.

Crenshaw. I can't remember his last name. I remember

Zac Miller: don't say his last name. We're

not calling anybody out.

Kim Gravel: He had a mullet. He had a mullet And I didn't use my tongue. It was just heavy making out just kiss. That's it. How about you Rachel?

Rachel Boesing: Yeah, like, um I honestly don't. This is so sad. I don't even remember my first kiss.

I don't. It's I mean, it clearly was not memorable. I remember some point time of playing spin the bottle with the whole group of kids. That's not cute. But I don't think that was really my first kiss. No, it was not cute.

Kim Gravel: I'm just like all the roller skate times, right? Like some of those songs that I hear.

Okay, I'm gonna I'm gonna take one back for you. Okay. I used to I used to want somebody to ask me to couple skate. Okay. Okay. We belong with Pat Benatar. Remember that?

Rachel Boesing: We belong, we belong, we belong, we belong to be alone together. Yes, yes, that is a good one. Do you remember La Freak Says Chic? Do you remember that song? Like way back in the day, way back in the day. All the things. And then of course there would be like Elton John and Kiki D.

Don't go breaking my heart. I mean. Let's, you know, we can, you, you and I in the songs, we're all the things, we're all the things.

Kim Gravel: We're, that's what makes us, that's what makes us so close is like sisters. And so I'm gonna leave, I'm gonna leave the, I'm gonna leave the skating rink, but I gotta ask you one question before we go, when we leave our disco ball here.

Can you do the tricks? You know what I'm saying? Like the, like the backwards skate and did you have speed skates?

Rachel Boesing: So, I didn't have speed skates and I will say that for the record, my, my favorite Christmas gift on the face of the planet was actually. My roller skates with urethane wheels had to be leather, so I asked for them.

I was begging, begging, begging when I was like 14 years old. They had to have the urethane wheels. You know, I had the pom poms. I didn't have lights on my urethane. They were just white skates. Literally, I could run upstairs and get them right now. I still own them. 40 years later, I still have them upstairs in my closet.

Yes, I do. I have lugged them around. I'm a 57 year old woman. I have lugged those skates around everywhere. It's like my thing. So, so that was, those were my favorite gift skating, of course. And then I'm sorry, what was the question? See, I lost it.

Kim Gravel: Your favorite, favorite song. No, no, your favorite. No. Did you, did you do any fun tricks?

Rachel Boesing: Oh, yes, yes. I did a tricks. So I used to teach roller skating. And then I did do tricks. Yes. So the guy though is the lead and has to be really strong. So I would do like the tricks you'd see on ice skates. Like you, you know, fling yourself back and you're like two inches from the ground and all that stuff. And he would spend me around and it was trust on him because he was just really strong. And I was a kid and I'm like, I'm close to the ground. If I fall what I don't know,

I was, I was pretty courageous.

Kim Gravel: That is a theme in your life though. It really, really is like as, as I got to know you as a person, but also as I got to know you. preparing for this interview, you have always lived this authentically adventurous life. You, and you even say you want to squeeze every ounce of juice out of this life that you're given. Rachel, what, what has made you be that way? What, what has given you that kind of confidence and courage to be that person and live that way?

Rachel Boesing: I think I, wow. I think that my parents, they're artists. And so they were always very much like you have to do what you love. You talk in your book about a calling. What's a calling? You just have to do what you love, right? If you're going to spend eight hours every day doing something, it can't be.

Something that really just annoys you to death. And I remember, so that's been a through line. I went to Brown and they're like, you know, the world is your oyster. You can, you can always pivot. You can always make a turn. Understand that you're never trapped.

Kim Gravel: Okay. Okay. Hold on. Yeah, but you go to Brown and you can pivot.

I mean, who goes to Brown? It's Ivy League girl. Like if I got into Brown, there would be no pivoting. My parents would be like, you go get there and you're going to study. And that's what you're going to do. You know what I'm saying? Like.

Rachel Boesing: Well, I did get there and I did study, but the, the kind of the message there is, you know, Brown has pass fail classes, which encourages you to experiment and find things like even though you're pre med, okay, we're not going to mess with your pre med GPA that you need to have, but you should still be able to experiment and take other classes that won't mess with that, but allows you to.

Step out and try to take other things. So that through line is there. But then also when I had my boss at my first job, I never forget. He pulled me aside and he said, you know what? If you're living for the weekend, you ain't living and I was like, Oh, because I think I was complaining about work or something like that.

And I was like, ah, the weekend, you know, everybody's like, ah, I finally clawed my way to the weekend. And he was like, you spend more time here. Then on the off hours, you better figure out that balance chick. I mean, he didn't say it like that, but I was like, wow, you're if I'm living for the weekend, I've made some bad choices for me.

You know, like I need to, I need to reconsider what, how I'm spending my time.

Kim Gravel: I think that's for everybody listening, Rachel. I'm really, I think we're at a point, especially after, you know, all this big COVID and all this mess going on in the world, you wake up and you go, what am I doing and why am I doing it?

Would you say that's something you ask yourself quite often?

Rachel Boesing: Absolutely. Well, I, I think that I ask, do I love every single day? And so, am I spending my time the way I want to spend it? I always try to authentically be exactly where I am. Like the through line for me is if I'm with you, there's nowhere else in the world I'd rather be.

You're exactly where I want to be.

Kim Gravel: I feel that with you. I feel that every Saturday night. I feel that with you.

Rachel Boesing: A thousand percent. There literally is nowhere else. I want to be. Your presence. I'm present. And that is, I work really hard at being present, which means that I really do gut checks all the time.

I think I've said this to friends. I was like, you don't ever have to worry. And they know this. You don't ever have to worry about whether or not I like a job because I've, I don't want to quit. I call myself the big quitter. I quit jobs all the time. I'm like, Oh, I'm not doing that.

Kim Gravel: Not jobs, careers, not jobs.

All you change trajectories. I mean, because, okay, you went to Brown your whole life. You wanted to be a marine biologist. I did. And then you went to Brown and you've got this master's in marketing. Correct. And, and then you were,

Rachel Boesing: Because biology was hard. That's why I was like, Oh, I think I was like, I think I have to change course because this I'm not sure I got the cranium.

Kim Gravel: Well, and you come from all the creatives. You come from this creative environment. And then you become a weather girl and I don't want to say weather girl. We need to say weather forecaster because remember, the reason I say weather, hi, we're your weather girls. You know what song I'm doing. Yes. But you were in a huge market in LA girl, that's a big job.

It's a big career. How did that get that?

Rachel Boesing: It's the tippity top, right? New York is the only bigger market, or if you're national. That's it.

Kim Gravel: You so could have been national.

Rachel Boesing: Gut checks. So there are a couple of them. So I went to, I went to Brown, I went to Michigan, and then I wanted to be in advertising, and so I was in advertising for three years, and I was like, okay, this isn't for me.

And I quit the big job where at the time my mom was like, my daughter makes more money than me than I have in my entire life. Right? My mom, the playwright and I'm, and I'm quitting the job. She would never say though, PS, you have to say somewhere for money. That's not her. That isn't her, but that was just kind of factually.

And I was like, yeah, I'm gonna leave this job. And then I went to LA to be anonymous. You know, I quit my job, the career of being in advertising. I went there to be anonymous. I interned.

Kim Gravel: What do you mean by that? No, wait a minute. What do you mean by that? What do you mean about you went there to be anonymous?

Now, wait a minute. We got to spark it there because I love that. What does that mean?

Rachel Boesing: Because, when I was in Chicago, I was, you know, Rachel with the masters working in Leo Burnett advertising agency and on this trajectory and what have you, and with all the expectations that go with that. And I just had to shed that skin.

I wanted to, I knew that I wanted to go into journalism. I didn't know where that was going to be, but I was like LA because I wanted to do entertainment reporting. And so I moved out to LA and girl took up temp work and interned at entertainment tonight and took a class at long beach city college. And I mean, basically I was answering phones and I just didn't tell anybody what my background was.

I worked for a temp agency. I just said, I'm gonna go into the new line cinema or Fox new, you know, Fox television or whatever. And I'm just going to be doing temp stuff. I'm going to do that because I'm working on something else in the background. So I did that. And sent out tapes. Entertainment Tonight helped me make a reel.

It was crazy. You saw it. You think she was not really a journalist, but I, you know, knocked on doors and got no after no, after no, after no, after no. And then finally somebody decided that they'd take a chance on me. And, I went to South Bend, Elkhart, Indiana, and that was my first job in broadcasting. In For the fall 94 and I was living by cornfields and I call my girlfriend and I was like, what am I doing?

I live out my window. They're cornfields. I'm a city mouse. What is happening? I'm a city mouse. Why am I in the country? I've become a country mouse. I'm trying to

try and you have this goal, right? And you have this goal. And, You know, it's a thing. And when I left, Leo Burnett advertising, I wrote an, I wrote an article and this is where I list, I read your book and I'm reading your book and I'm like, Oh my gosh, all of our themes are so similar because you're like, it's never too late to turn.

It just isn't too late to take stock, pivot, recalibrate, set your sights on a new dream. That's why I'm always like, you know, never forget that the world is your oyster. If you're willing to, you know, make some sacrifices. You can turn, you can turn, you can turn, you can turn, you can turn. And, and I do believe in that.

It's of course, it's harder when you've got a family, you've got people who are, you know, who are counting on you. It doesn't have to be I mean, if everybody will tighten their belt, I always said I'm fine eating ramen noodles and peanut butter and jelly. So I will figure it out. If that's what it takes to do this pivot.

So it was called jump at the chance. And that's where you and I kind of, it resonates. Like if something really speaks to your heart, jump at the chance, you've got to just jump at the chance. And that's what I was trying to do when I changed careers and went into journalism, my, my first kind of pivot,

Kim Gravel: but why do you think Rachel people?

And we, and I'm going to put us all, cause we're all the same, just in different ways. Why do you think we are hesitant to jump at our chance? Do you know what I'm saying? I think these moments come to us in our lives quite often, and you have been so adventurous to take them and maybe some of you haven't, I don't know, but I'm just saying, what do you think?

Made you or allowed you or, or freed you up to do that. Honestly.

Rachel Boesing: Honestly, I think it's, ramen noodles and peanut butter and jelly. I just was like, I can live really skinny. I honestly think that people don't take that jump because they've gotten comfortable with wherever level of life they're living.

And they're like this life that I'm living at this level that I can do, you know, business class or whatever. I'm afraid to lose my stuff. I am afraid to lose my stuff. And so I was, I lived and traveled around in six boxes or less. That was the joke for the longest time. I was like, Oh, I can back my stuff up in six boxes or less.

Let's go. You know, I was like, quit a job now that we're moving across the country. We're starting in, you know, a couple of weeks and we're doing that. And that's what the life of a journalist is though. I mean, You have to be willing. The only way up is to move. And so you always have to be willing to kind of be flexible and ready to do that.

But I do think, I think fundamentally it's finances. If people could get their finances right, or decide that they could tighten as tight as it needs to go. I think people would take more risks with themselves and, and with, even with the family, with people that they're like, I got a budget, I can figure out how to do this.

I can figure out how to make this change. But there is, of course, what you talk about, Kim, as well in your book, is that there's that element of faith, right? That actually the road stops here. The rest is faith. That last 10, 10 blocks, boop, that'll get you to your dream is just, you know.

Kim Gravel: I don't think dreams ever wear out or run out.

I think that it doesn't matter. Like people say, well, I have this dream. I think, well, you need to dream vividly and more prolifically because there are more than just one dream. I mean, like to me, don't you think, because I'm looking at your life and you've dreamed and dreamed and then, then, you know, you got to QVC.

We got to talk about how you got there, but I'm just saying like, don't you think that dreams are never ending and they're always, what's that? It's not. Is it cyclical? You know, I'm using some big words today, which is Brown graduate.

Rachel Boesing: Big words, big words. I think, I think dreams do reoccur. And I also think they're ever evolving, right?

As you evolve, they're ever evolving. And I hear you exactly. They, they, they just continue to kind of grow. You know, I know that the dream that I had when I started is not my dream. Now my dream back in the day was I wanted to have a show that was a cross between Charlie Rose and Barbara Walters. I want to be able to sit down and interview anybody.

Like anybody, politics, art, authors, you know, toe tuck truck drivers, whatever I wanted to be able to interview everybody. And in my mind, cause it wasn't, it wasn't 24 hour wheel of entertainment. There were only two shows. There was entertainment tonight. And then there were the Barbara Walters specials and Charlie Rose had all the politicians.

Remember, I mean, that's, that's the landscape I was looking at. So my vision was Charlie Rose, Barbara Walters, mashup, Rachel, let's do it. And I just, I never. I never got there. And then if you asked me today, would that still be my dream? And I would say, absolutely not. It wouldn't. No, it wouldn't because Our now 24 hour wheel on the celebrity is so magnifying glass on everybody that there's no mystery.

You know what I mean? Like, do you remember when you used to wait for the Barbara Walters? But you never used to wait for the Barbara. You're like, Oh my God, she's going to talk to Michael Jackson or she's going to talk to Oprah.

Or I mean, and you on the calendar, you were like, Oh my heavens. Because they never talked otherwise. You never saw them there. You never had a sit down. They have social media. Yeah, they have social media. It's not needed. My dream of a job is gone. It's not needed.

Kim Gravel: I agree with you. So, so what brought you to QVC, Rachel? Like, how did you get to QVC? Because to go from like the top, one of the top markets in the country to being, you know, a staple every day in people's homes, weather wise, to come being a QVC host, you want to talk about a pivot, life change, trajectory change.

Rachel Boesing: I think that God led me here. I do because, because I didn't even know that television shopping existed. Until I was 44. Until I came to QVC. I did not know about shopping on television. I think that was one of the things that was kind of intriguing by the folks who hired me, frankly.

 I was in LA and I was the weather woman, and I was there and I was the morning weather woman on N B C. And I was there for four years and I loved my colleagues. I loved seeing them every day, but the hours were soul crushing for me. And I literally couldn't do it anymore. And so I left the job because I couldn't get up at two 50 in the morning, 51 weeks out of the year.

That is literally because it was changing my personality. You're pure joy. And I was walking through life as a zombie. And so I was, I was, you know, I worked and then I was, I got to get some sleep. And so I quit. So another of my quit, I

quit, quit the big job.

Kim Gravel: Did they lose it when you said I'm out,

Rachel Boesing: they, you know, the morning weather position is it's an acquired taste.

And I think enough news directors know that you're either a person who can do that morning schedule or you're not. And they. My cycle was my, you know, my contract was 4 years, they saw it coming and they just said, no, they just, they said, can you, will you resign? And I said, I just can't. And they were like, what can we do?

And I said, change the start time. And they're like, can't, because we, we go until whatever, 9am or 7am. And then, then, you know, the national takes it over and blog, blog, blog. See, I don't even remember anymore, but they were like, can't. So we left on, we love you. We love each other. It's great. Great terms. But I just quit.

And then I was, doing some consulting for a while and I, this came across and my agent said, Hey, you want to try, you know, an audition at QVC. And I was like, I don't even know what that is, but actually, actually, let me back up. I auditioned for HSN. That's how I learned about television shopping. I did.

And I didn't get the job. And that was, that was before I came here. And I didn't get the job. And that's when I learned about TV shopping. I actually went down and visited in the whole nine yards, didn't get the job. And then QVC came up and I just thought, let me take the audition. And, and why I thought QVC is a place for me is that when I was auditioning, I walked into the audition to the, to the outer room where we were going to go meet the folks in audition.

And there were women of every shape and size and color. And I just was like, okay, so this is a place that's inclusive. This is a place. Yes. Is it, isn't a typical LA audition, which is not a stereotype homogenous. Exactly. And there isn't a QVC come one, come all we welcome all. And then I met Jack and Sue that's personally who hired me.

And I was like, Oh my gosh, I know I live television and I love interviewing the part I don't understand is sales. And I just thought it would be really fun to try. That's how I got here.

Kim Gravel: What was your audition? Like everybody watching is going to be curious to see what that process is like, as I've heard about it from other people that.

What was your audition like? Like, what did they ask you to do? Tell me, just give me a little bit of heads up.

Rachel Boesing: It's so crazy because they, you, they ask you, you walk in and there's a table of items and they ask you to pick an item and then to present it. And I picked a Bee Makowski handbag, which was a rose gold color.

Absolutely gorgeous.

Kim Gravel: Of course you would go bougie. Of course you would go bougie.

Rachel Boesing: Exactly. Bougie for sure. The audition, once you get to Studio Park, They've already brought in say 24 people and they'll, they'll put you up in teams of 12 and 12, but you audition in front of everybody else.

So you see everybody else audition. It's amazing. When I said, when I shared that with my mom, who's a playwright and who has auditioned actors and actresses throughout her entire life, she was like, I've never heard of that. She was like, I'm sorry. It is. It is. It is not for the faint of heart because you see when somebody, okay, well, here's what they did.

Well, here's what they did. Here's how do you know your spirit or what are you going to do? What, what do you, what do you bring to the table? And of course, what you bring to the table is Zac's personal DNA, Kim's personal DNA, Rachel Boesing's way of doing it. You. Your unique style and presentation style.

No two presentations are alike. No two people who present are exactly the same. You bring your. You bring yourself, which is funny. It's similar to weather because frankly, weather forecasters, we're all within one or two degrees. So whoever you watch, it's because you like, it literally is because you like, you, you simply like them.

Kim Gravel: You vibe with them.

Rachel Boesing: Because this person says 76, this person says 74. And this person says 75. You fine.

Kim Gravel: Okay. Let me ask you this. You're so right about it. And everybody has their own, like you said, their DNA, their little magic, their special thing. What, what, and I, I got my take on all you hosts, you know, cause I get, I get the gamut.

Okay. And you know, I have thoughts. Okay. That's for another show. I have thoughts. That's for another show. So tell me, what do you think your style is? Like what do you think? Why do you think? Because you're so popular on QVC. People connect with you. They love you. What do you think it is, Rachel, that makes a good host or an interviewer or a presenter or whatever?

What do you think makes a good anything in this life?

Rachel Boesing: 10,000 hours. So says that book, right? How do you become an expert?

10,000 hours, my friend, there's no shortcut. It just basically that is what it is. If you've done 10,o00 hours, you do the work, whatever you do to work.

Kim Gravel: Well, honey, that explains why I'm struck.

I'm still, I'm still wobbling right here at 50 something. I'm I'm getting to my 10,000 girl.

Rachel Boesing: Girl, you're 10, 000 hours. And I think that all of our hosts have their own right secret little special sauce. And thank you. I, I, I'm. I value my connection with the customer. I also feel like our customer is super smart and I'm an eyes dotted T's cross girl.

Like I'm very much about the facts. I'm like, here are the facts. Here's what's up. How is this functionally going to help me? And then told me, you know, sprinkle fairy dust on it because I. You know, I'm, if you're taking leaps and jumps, you're very judicious about how you spend your money. You're like, I don't like willy nilly, just throw it around all the time.

And I, I treat people's money like that as well. And when, like, when I say by my multiples, by the way, I just bought two of Kim's hoodies and two of her t shirts. I'm not kidding. You buy multiples of the stuff that you love of, you know, price for wearing, you're going to wear it all the time. So I think I'm not frivolous with her money.

 Our customer. I respect her. I like her. I think that there's facts and then there's fun.

Kim Gravel: I agree with a thousand percent of everything you just said. I think you are a dot the I cross the T type of girl and I do think you're facts and I think that's why our show is so good because I bring a little bit of the fun because you know I ain't about facts.

So this is the thing. So I decided to kind of flip the script on you today during the show. Let's do it. So, I have this kind of tradition that is, when I have a QVC host on The Kim Gravel Show, where we do this impromptu grab something that you see in your area. So think of this as your new KGS Kim Gravel Show audition tape.

Here we go. So grab you a little something around there. Could be a pencil, could be a blanket, could be whatever you want to sell because you're going to sell with these 10 phrases I'm going to give you right now, impromptu, something around you. Rachel, grab it now.

Rachel Boesing: I'm wanting to grab my dog. Somehow I'm wanting to grab my dog. But she's not gonna cooperate. She's like, I'm She was like, I'm on the floor. Don't grab me. Well, what I have, this is so crazy. I'm gonna bring it 'cause I know that you interviewed Mary De Angelis. Okay. The lights are gonna come down here. I'm reaching her mother made this qui for me.

Yes, because Mary d and I were thick as thieve's. You know that orange is my favorite color. Not surprised. You know that Orange and pinks and corals.

Always, always cantaloupe watermelon I'm wearing. So this quilt her mom made and I love it. It's a nice little throw. So this is Mary D's mom's throw.

Kim Gravel: So Rachel has to use these phrases.

One is go down the rabbit hole. Two is keep your eyes peeled. Three is bend over backwards. Four is best thing since sliced bread. Five is. Hi, in the sky, your sixth phrase you got to use is bull in a china shop. Your seventh phrase is everything but the kitchen sink. And then your eighth phrase is put a pin in it.

And I love this one. Nine is our favorite. Pardon my French. And your 10th phrase you're going to use is take a chill pill. All in selling Mary DeAngelis's mother's amazing. Hand knitted quilt handmade quilt.

Zac Miller: Rachel, you can do them in any order. You can do them in any order.

Kim Gravel: Wait a minute. Wait a minute. Wait a minute. Wait a minute. Have you, first of all, first of all, have you noticed that every single QVC has that comes in here? They don't go, Oh my gosh, I can't They all are like, they grab it and they get on the edge.

Zac Miller: They are ready.

Kim Gravel: They are like a dog on a bone with this thing. Okay. Go ahead.

Zac Miller: Ready and go ahead.

Rachel Boesing: Hey, nice to see you. It's Rachel Boesing and I've got this beautiful quilt and you know what? Whatever you're doing, go put a pin in it because I'm going to take you with me.

Let's go on down the rabbit hole. I'm going to put this around my shoulders because I don't know about you, but we've got to keep our eyes peeled for whatever is going on.

And I know sometimes you're thinking, well, do I have to bend over backwards in order to see that screen? Well, yes, you do, because this is the best thing since sliced bread. And I'm not talking about any pie in the sky. I'm telling you that this is not how you're going to. If you have this wrapped around you, like you're a bull in a China shop, this essentially has everything but the kitchen sink.

And you know what? I think it's just damn, Oh, pardon my French. And you know what? I think you might be saying to me, take a chill pill, because all of a sudden I got a little saucy and you know what you need to do?

Keep your eyes. Peeled for whatever offer I have right now. Because remember you did bend over backwards. This is the best thing since sliced bread. It isn't pie in the sky. You won't be a bull in the China shop. It is everything, but the kitchen sink, put a pin in it because you're going to go buy it. Pardon my French and take that chill pill.

Kim Gravel: I think you just beat every QVC host that has ever been on this show. Oh my gosh, put a pin in that girl. Okay, I'm about to have a little bit of a panic attack and I'm not doing, I'm not doing the show Saturday. You on your own. Just figure it out.

Zac Miller: Oh my God.

Rachel Boesing: I love this. What a fun, you know what? You all are brilliant. Like what a fun little challenge. None of it made any sense, I'm sure. If you go back and listen to it.

Kim Gravel: It made sense. It did. So this is what we do the next QVC holiday party. I'm coming in and I'm doing this with all you host.

That's what I'm going to do. And I'm gonna make sure y'all have three or four drinks in you first. That's what I'm gonna do.

Rachel Boesing: It's gonna be it's gonna be crazy. That would be absolutely the best the best.

Kim Gravel: I want to ask you this question because you said, I saw you with, on Mally's show 50 and fabulous and it touched me because first of all, I love you both, but we're all in women of a certain age, we're in our fifties and you said you are living your most confidence, best life in your fifties and so many people are longing for that.

How are you doing that and how can you encourage other women that are listening to this to do that too?

Rachel Boesing: Thank you.

I love that question. And, it was a long time coming. It took a long time. I think for me to get to this point. I, how would I encourage other people to do it? I would, I would encourage everyone or someone to take a moment and kind of get centered about like, what is important to you?

What is your, what is kind of your North star? And, how can you get connected to that? Like, I know that mine is ringing the juiciness out of every minute. I really want to really want to be exactly where I am. And I think honestly, this is going to be so crazy. Not, not being married, I'm always taking and not having a family.

I'm always kind of taking a temperature of, is this really where I want to be? And I think when you're in a relationship and you've got other people, you do a lot of things, you spend a lot of time doing something you don't really want to do. And I, you know, I mean, and that just happens. You do it because you love other people and you do it because they want to do it.

And just, you know, side point, I was saying to my girlfriend, I gotta, you know, I gotta go somewhere. Cause my husband's family, blah, blah, blah. And she was like, I really want, don't want to go. And I said, well then don't go. And she was like, you've never been married. And I was like, you're you know, you do things because you love other people.

So a lot of people I find are doing things and in places and spending time in places that they don't really want to be, but they love this person and they're doing it for their husband or they're doing it for their children or they're doing it for whatever, or they've gotten on a treadmill. I mean, when I was reading your book, Kim, you were like.

Raising kids is a lot. You know, I mean, my dreams are over here and it's a lot. I'm backseat. I'm doing things for other people. And so I think people in conventional families or whatever your family unit is you lose touch with where you really authentically want to be. because you put other people in the front seat so often and the, the, what I have the ability to do as somebody who's just myself and my two cats and a dog is that I'm always in the front seat.

So I always know my, what my temperature is. I always know exactly what I want to do and where I want to be. And so, it's easier for me to kind of get in touch with what I want to do. So my recommendation would be. You know, what is that thing? It was what I said to Mallory. Like, what is that thing for you that be selfish for a minute?

Get to that point. What is that thing for you? That will really give you joy. And what is it? Take the Pilates class. If it's, I want to do yoga or you know what? Get on noom.

I just got on noom. Cause I'm like, Oh my gosh, I sell food all the time. You know that I got to, you know, There is some swing. I need to do, do that thing for you.

Take that trip. I just talked to my sister and she was like, I'm going to this conference. It's really expensive. But I was like, oh my gosh, thank God you're doing it. You're dropping a house on your son and a house on your daughter and your partner just says take that expensive thing and drop it on you.

You're always giving and you need it. She needs it. I'm like, Oh my gosh, I'm so glad that you're doing it. Get selfish for a minute. Fill your cup. You know, fill your cup and have that moment of a filled cup. And then I don't know, get, remind yourself of what that juiciness felt like, like, remind yourself of what the butterflies felt like when you were in love, remind yourself of what that I really love authentically where I am.

And I love authentically myself get reacquainted with yourself. And that's what I was like, whatever that is, if it is. That if it's that procedure, if it's that class you want to take, if it's that dress you want to wear, if it's that whatever, get in touch again with what you really want and is just for you, like maybe selfishly just for you and then walk out like a boss feeling strong because you did that thing.

You're like, yup, I wore that dress. I got that little tuck that I wanted to get, whatever it is. I took that class. I've always wanted to learn salsa or I've always wanted to know piano lessons, but everybody else's desires have always been first. Go You know, do that, give yourself that gift because everyone says it all the time, but you know, when you're on an airplane, they're like, put your own air mask on first, get your own oxygen mask on first, and then do all the others.

And I think that's, what's been really nice for me to learn that. And honestly, to probably come to terms with, you know, being 57 and not married and No longer feeling like I'm supposed to be like the thirsty single girl. I was like, Oh my God, I'm so not thirsty. What in the world? Not thirsty, right?

I love my life.

I love my life. And like really being comfortable going. I love my life. I would love to have love. You will be the cherry on top. I love my life.

Kim Gravel: There's so many people that feel stuck, you know, that feel stuck in a marriage or stuck in a circumstance or stuck, you know, that's how I felt as a mom and I love my kids and would die for my kids.

I mean, I love it. But at times I felt in motherhood very stuck. And I know it's not a popular thing to say, but it's just truth. And when I started taking those little bit of times to rekindle the dreams that I had, and they weren't big, They weren't these big monumental. I want to have these big brands.

I didn't, I didn't, it was just little tiny baby steps of just, like you said, taking just being selfish a little bit. And I would encourage everybody, Rachel, you just nailed it. You nailed it because it's so true.

Rachel Boesing: Over 50, maybe you're empty nester. You get to like, reacquaint yourself with yourself and get to know yourself again.

You got a lot of life to live. 50s and fabulous, right? Is that people are like. Oh, Shazam. That's oh, snap. Here. My, my kids are like, they're launching. I got some freedom. What is it that I want to do? Like all of a sudden I'm like, Whoa, I'm kind of boss again. And that's, what's really nice about kind of the over fifties and fabulous.

It's funny. I saw, she was, she was interviewing Jackie Stafford and I think Jackie Stafford was saying, you know what, like everybody's just winging it as well, and I thought that was a great piece of information, too, that, frankly, we're all just winging it. We're all, like, doing our best.

Kim Gravel: We're all a squirrel trying to get a nut, okay?

Rachel Boesing: We're just, we're winging it. We're just out here doing it. I mean, you think we know? Exactly. Trying to, trying to live our best life. There isn't a, there aren't any instructions. No. You're just kind of winging it to the best of your ability, and hopefully the cake gets made.

Kim Gravel: It's never too late. You're always right on time.

Okay. We do every interview. We close this out with rapid fire, rapid fire questions. There is nobody. I have more confidence in that's ever been on this show.

Rachel Boesing: I'm sweating. I'm sweating here. I'm like,

Kim Gravel: Amy, you know, Amy, my BFF, she's been on here. Her rapid fire was not even fire, much less rapid. Okay. I mean, it was no one.

Everybody's like, what? I mean, I have full faith. A thousand percent. That Rachel's going to pop it out like, like pop, like poop, poop, poop, poop.

Here we go. First thing comes out. Your mind comes out. Your mouth. Okay. Here we go.

She's ready. Okay.

Okay. What is your happy place?

Rachel Boesing: The beach, blue water.

Kim Gravel: If you got a tattoo, what would it be and where?

Rachel Boesing: Oh my gosh, I don't have a tattoo for a reason because I can't commit.

Zac Miller: We're getting deep now Kim.

Kim Gravel: No need to answer this, that was priceless. That was priceless. I told you, I told you tea or coffee?

Tea or coffee?

Rachel Boesing: Tea.

Kim Gravel: Text or call?

Rachel Boesing: Call. Thousand percent.

Kim Gravel: Oh, I'm a texter. Okay. Dogs or cats? Oh, Lord. There you go. You got to choose. Nope. Got to choose. Give me one.

Rachel Boesing: Both.

Kim Gravel: Okay. Favorite type of junk food?

Rachel Boesing: Oh, wow. I eat Twizzlers like crazy. I love Twizzlers. I love Twizzlers.

Kim Gravel: Is that really a junk food? It's not a lot of calories.

Rachel Boesing: I think it's, it's just sticks of sugar. It might not be a lot of calories. That's why I love it.

That's why I love it.

Zac Miller: I have a follow up question. Follow up question. Yes. Would you have a Red Vine?

Rachel Boesing: Oh, no, no, no. I love Red Vines. So Red Vines, Twizzlers, both. Red Vines are Los Angeles to me. Twizzlers here. My preference at the movie theater is always Red Good question. Cause I would, or I like the cherry Twizzlers, but you have to buy them in a big bag.

That's the thing, right? That regular, and they're, they come and you have to pull them off the little Twizzlers. I'm like a Twizzler, you know, connoisseur.

It's a thing.

Kim Gravel: Connoisseur. You are. Okay. I am. Who's your celebrity crush?

Rachel Boesing: Oh, heavens, probably Idris Elba.

Kim Gravel: Oh, who, who's, who, who is, he's everybody's celebrity crush.

Rachel Boesing: He's everybody's, everybody's celebrity crush. He is such a handsome man. Such a handsome man. And I was like, who was my celebrity crush before then? I don't know, Michael B. Jordan, but he's too young, right? Idris, we're in the same, you know, Michael B. Jordan, very handsome man. I'm 57. No cradle robbing.

Well, you know what? I will pray about it. Michael B. Jordan. If you are watching call me, call me.

Zac Miller: He's 36. He's my age.

Rachel Boesing: Call me. I would not say no.

Kim Gravel: She wouldn't even say maybe just call her. Okay. She would say yes. What, what is the top of your bucket list?

Rachel Boesing: Oh, I want to go on safari, but I haven't figured out the person to go with.

 I want to go on safari.

Kim Gravel: I went on safari. You have to call me girl.

Rachel Boesing: I want it to be romantical. And so I haven't gone yet.

Kim Gravel: Well, it was with Travis. So it wasn't romantical and it wasn't, it was, we did it on the cheap. Honey, by the time you almost get eaten by a lion, the romance goes out of the way in the night.

You just sitting there going, is the elephant going to

break in?

Rachel Boesing: Oh my, I'm dying to go on safari. Like that is my bucket list. I still want to go.

Kim Gravel: Magical and the experience. Yes. But Travis and I, there was a two lions mate, there was a lion and lioness mating and the jeep got in the way. And that, that lion was right here.

He could just hook up and just took Travis off the back of that truck. And the guy go it and caught his gun.

Rachel Boesing: And the line was like, Oh, audio cue. I can't eat that.

Kim Gravel: He didn't move. He didn't move. But I was sitting there going, wow. Oh my gosh. You're getting ready to get eaten by a lion.

Rachel Boesing: Oh my gosh.

There's my husband.

Kim Gravel: There's my husband getting eaten by a lion. Guess who's going to win. But it was, it was amazing. It was amazing.

Zac Miller: But wait, so two lions are getting busy and the driver's just like, we're going to get in, we're going to get all up in that. Like that's the decision.

Kim Gravel: Well, I mean, because we got in the way of it and, and he started growling and they were becoming aggressive towards the Jeep, but the Jeep has no glass.

He has no nothing. Like he could just go, I mean, seriously, Travis is sitting in the chair, the jeep seat, and here is the lion's face right here. And he goes, don't move, don't move, don't move. And this is a guy who's indigenous. I mean, he grew up there. So he, I mean, he knows, he knows these animals and he just cocked his gun.

I was like, this is, here we go. We're meeting Jesus today.

Rachel Boesing: Here we go. Strap in. This is the moment.

Kim Gravel: It's his moment. So what I say to you is go. It is game changing, life changing.

Rachel Boesing: I so want to go. I so want to go. So that's, that's the top of my bucket list. For sure. Top of your bucket list. Okay. I know this is your show, but I so want to interview Kim about her book.

I have so many questions. There were all these, I have, I have white, I mean, I have, you know. Highlighted passages here.

Kim Gravel: Rachel, you crazy.

Rachel Boesing: I mean, don't edit your story. Don't despise any part of yourself. I mean, you read Kim's book and first of all, all you do is do this. Yep. Girl got it and then you weep, you nod.

Twizzlers or red vines. You're like, that's my life. That is my life. How is she in my brain? That's all you do.

Sometimes you have to jump without a safety net. Isn't this what we were talking about? You have to jump without a safety net. And that's why I was like, we're the same person. We are not too late for you to pick a new path.

I was like, we're the same person. We're talking about the same thing.

Kim Gravel: Rachel. Can I say this? Everybody should write their life. And look back at their life because your life has always been speaking to you and your calling has always been calling you. It's been that common thread throughout your whole entire life. And that's when I realized at 50 years old, I woke up, I was like, why am I trying to be like such and so and trying to be do this when I just decided I'm just going to live.

What God had put in me and if people get it, they get it. If they don't, they don't. But I love them. Anyway, the, the, the anger goes, the depression goes, the anxiety goes, the, the weight comes off, the, the expectations go, the, the being so hard on ourselves goes, yes, last. Rapid fire question. Okay. Rank your QVC colleagues.

Rachel Boesing: That is never going to happen.

Kim Gravel: Yes, you got like this. This is just who first comes to your mind now. Best hair. Best hair.

Rachel Boesing: Courtney Khondabi.

Kim Gravel: Oh God. She got some good hair now. I ain't lying. Best smile.

Oh, pick one. I don't do the cat dog thing. Pick one.

Rachel Boesing: I don't know. The first person who came to my mind was Jane Brown.

Kim Gravel: Okay, I love me some Jay Brown. Okay, funniest laugh.

Rachel Boesing: Sean Killinger.

Kim Gravel: she got a good, I like her laugh. I love best eyes.

Rachel Boesing: Oh, Vanessa Herring.

Kim Gravel: Mm. I love her too. Oh, I love her.

Rachel Boesing: I like her eyes. Just yeah,

Kim Gravel: I bet I know who this one is. Best sense of humor.

Rachel Boesing: Best sense of humor. Oh, Mary D'Angelis.

Kim Gravel: I knew you're going to say that.

Rachel Boesing: You can't be next to her for more than five minutes and not laugh your tail off.

Kim Gravel: You're that way too though. You're that way too. Most hospitable.

Rachel Boesing: Pat James Dementry or Leah.

Kim Gravel: Oh, let me tell you something. Well, I would have done Leah Williams.

Zac Miller: Graceful,

Rachel Boesing: hospitable. I love her.

Kim Gravel: The hottest. The hottest.

Rachel Boesing: Alberti Popaj.

Alberti. He's the hottest. He's my husband on TV. I always see him. I'm like, he's got four wives. Rachel on Wednesday. Kirsten on Thursday, amy on Friday, Kirsten on Saturday, Sandra Bennett, for whatever beauty show there is. He's got four wives. He's a lion tamer. He's like, okay.

Kim Gravel: The man is busy. All right, here's the last one.

Who is the best hugger?

Rachel Boesing: The best hugger? I don't know. Maybe my BFF, Kirsten. She's a good hugger.

Kim Gravel: She's a good hugger. She does.

No, she gives you those tight hugs. You, you, you felt seen. Allrihgt Rachel,

I love you. You've got to come back.

Rachel Boesing: Oh my heavens. Oh my heavens. I would love to, I love this.

I want turnabout is fair play. Zac. I get to, so next time I get to ask him, like I get 10 minutes of just. Interviewing Kim.

Zac Miller: Deal.

Rachel Boesing: On Kim's own show.

Zac Miller: Deal. I would love to do that.

Kim Gravel: and I love you, sis.

Rachel Boesing: I love you, too. It is such a blessing. I will absolutely come back. It's a blessing, I think, as well, because we all love and appreciate exactly where we are, wherever we are.

And we all accept wherever you are, right? I don't go in there and feel judged. You know, by my colleagues or friends there. Or competitive. Or competitive either, which is really amazing. That's rare. I really just feel super supportive.

Kim Gravel: Well, let's just leave it with the probably the most important question I could ask you today Who is your favorite brand and guest to do a show with?

Zac Miller: Be honest racial be honest

Rachel Boesing: Let's see would that be kim gravel And do I need to run upstairs into my closet and get all the things that are KG, that are Belle Beach or Kim Gravel, or I'm sorry, am I wearing Kim Gravel? Do you see me on Wednesdays

wearing Kim Gravel?

Kim Gravel: That was a setup. That was a setup.

I apologize. All I'm gonna let you go before we get in trouble. I love you, girl.

Rachel Boesing: I love you. Thank you so much. It was such a pleasure and a privilege to be with you. Thank you, Kim. Thank you, Zac. Thank you so much for, you know, walking me through this. And it was just, I feel very privileged to have been here with you.

Kim Gravel: We love you. Okay. See you saturday night.

Rachel Boesing: Okay. See you Saturday night.

Kim Gravel: Well, I told you that was going to be a h exciting ride with Rachel isn't she fantastic the joy of who she is.

Zac Miller: Rachel brings so much joy. She brings so much of just who she is to it. I know. And that is just like so much fun to see. I know. Like, I, I feel inspired by her and I get why she's so successful as a host on QVC because it's like you just, you, you feel her, right?

 Her presence through coming through the screen, right? And it's, I want to like, I feel like she's one of those people that when you're in the room with her, she also sort of like, you know, invigorates.

Kim Gravel: She is. I will say this. She's a prime example of how to live your most adventurous, authentic life and do it now.

Y'all look, y'all are listening to this. Don't wait. There's something you have been pressing pause on. Maybe it's a dream. Maybe like she said, it's a procedure. Maybe it's a travel opportunity. Maybe it's just taking that class. Press play. It's time to get about it because it's the little things in life that we remember and it's The little things that turn into the big things that make our life better So until next time just know Zac and I we love you We appreciate you watching share this with other people let everybody know about The Kim Gravel ShowReview like and share because we are here to help you level up Your life, and we're all gonna do it together.

Alright, bye! See you next time! We love ya! Bye!

Zac Miller: Just double checking. The red light's on, right? You hit record again. It is, okay, great.

Kim Gravel: I gotcha. Scroll me up.

Zac Miller: What? Isn't that what you want? Aren't you looking at the right thing?

Kim Gravel: I'm looking, baby, you'll be showing what I'm looking at. I think you're having iPad issues,

Zac Miller: Kim. It's, but it is scrolled up on mine. So what does that mean?

Kim Gravel: That means that that means you're not controlling me, baby.

Zac Miller: I, well, I never control your, okay.

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