Confidence Coaching: Conquer Your Fear of Failure

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Kim Gravel: This is how coaching happens. This is how, what happens in the NFL, the NBA, pageant coaching and everything. Everybody's excited at first. Okay. The second step is always harder than the first. The third step is easier than the second. And by the 10th step, you're doing it like clockwork. So you are still in the in between stuck step of one and two, which is the excitement And the actual, how do I do this?

Opening Introduction: Let's just go on and spill the tea. This is The Kim Gravel Show. This is one of the realest persons I've ever met in my darn life. You gotta watch this. My mission is to encourage every single woman, we're here to lift y'all up. There's no one more effective than moms. You mess with the bull. You going to get the horns. I need coffee. I need Jesus and I need therapy. If you can bring a smile to people's faces, why would you not? We love our kids. We love our husbands. What a blessing. We're gonna dedicate this to you in finding your superpower. Okay girl. True confidence is knowing who you are and why you're here.

Kim Gravel: Hey y'all, Kim Gravel here. And this is The Kim Gravel Show. And this season, we're going to be talking about how we're going to level up our lives and walk in that and walk boldly in our confidence. We've got Blythe and Carrie on again.

We did some hot seat coaching not too long ago, and Blythe was very... Very transparent about what is holding her back. She's wanting more in her life and doesn't know the steps to take or didn't at the time. We gave her some homework. She did it. I'm gonna have to do some tough love today. Zac little tough love.

Zac Miller: Why is that Kim?

Kim Gravel: You know, they did the videos and they did one video and then they kind of petered out. We didn't hear back from them. We didn't, we didn't, they were waiting on us to connect. And I was kind of just, you know, letting people show you who they are and how bad do they want it. And, I truly believe in this, in this girl.

I believe in her and her sister. I believe they've got something to offer and something special. So, today is going to be a little bit of tough love from Coach Kim. But I've got some ideas how to get them back on track and get them confident in stepping into their calling. So, y'all stay tuned.

We've got some hot seat coaching with Blythe and Carrie, right after this. Hey y'all, it's Kim Gravel here, and I got a question for ya. Are you ready to level up your life? Are you tired of having all the self doubt? Well, if you are, I've got a confidence quiz you've got to take. Because no matter where you are in the journey of your life, right now is where you start to be everything you were meant to be.

So head on over to kimgravel.com to find out. How confident you really are. Let's go. Okay. Today we are welcoming back the brunette with a booty, Blythe and her sister, Carrie. Blythe, as you remember, is a stay at home mom. She's 33 years old, three kids, nine, 11 and three. She said she needs to figure out what she wants to do next.

Her biggest dream is to have her whole family perform together. Doesn't know exactly what that's going to look like, but the last time we talked to Blythe and her sister, Carrie, they were going to take a few steps and start in the direction of their calling. Let's recap though. Blythe and Carrie, are y'all there?

Yeah, we're here. Thanks for having us. I love you girl. I'm so glad you're back You're in this hot seat coaching moment again for the second time I want to recap though from the first time. You were on blithe on the show. So take a listen everybody.

Blythe: I think that I have taken on my husband's life And then I have been kind of taught you need to be content in the life that you're living And and I do need to be content It is true, but I think that I've, I think that I'm not using the gifts that God has given me, to pursue the dreams that I've always wanted.

And I'm not, and I don't even know exactly what those dreams are, but I know that they've been put inside of me.

Kim Gravel: I know exactly how you feel, and every woman listening to this can relate. You have said you make excuses. You have said you feel trapped. You have said you feel like you are not enough. You have said, who do you think you are?

Everything you're feeling is going to be a catalyst for others to walk through this journey with you, Blythe. You're stepping into your calling. So if, if you were not a farmer's wife and a mother, what would you be doing?

Blythe: When I was younger, I made so many videos with my brothers and sisters, and we just were in front of the camera and that's where we shined.

And that's where we had like our fun time. And so, I think if I was not, a wife, On a farm, I would probably be trying to emcee as many pageants as I could. I'd be trying to make videos online. I would want my brothers and sisters involved, in everything I was doing because they're incredibly talented too.

Kim Gravel: I've got some homework for Blythe. So this is what I want you to do. You've been so transparent tonight and you have said that you and your sister used to make these videos. So what I'm going to do is I'm going to. Get you to start making some videos for me. Oh! I'm gonna send you both a box full of Belle Beauty.

I gotta get you doing to do. You gotta get going. Because you gotta start feeling alive again. Fulfilled again and satisfied again. So that you can go another step. Okay. That we're leveling up. You can't go from here to here. You got it. You got to take one step at a time. So this next step is just getting busy about doing the thing first, because you're going to find what you think a call and a purpose is not a job.

It's not what you do. It's your why you do it. So, all right, Blythe, last time we talked. You felt trapped in your current situation. You said you were making excuses. You cared what about what other people thought too much. Tell me where you're at today, girl.

Blythe: Well, I will tell you, I think I needed to hear myself say those words.

I'd never really gotten like very deep and kind of got behind. I mean, I felt that way and so you pulled that out of me and so I kind of needed to hear that, but I would say my daily life has changed. I have my moments, but I learned how negative I was being and after talking with you, I was able to, I think Carrie's noticed it too, is I've had some, I've just been like, no, I don't care.

I'm going to go do what I need to do and be who I want to be. And so I've had great feedback from people here in town and, they said, I don't know why you feel that way. Cause. We love the show and we just know exactly how we feel.

Carrie: We love you. Blythe apart from mom and wife.

Kim Gravel: Wow. Oh, okay. Explain all that.

What do you mean people from your hometown and everyone's seeing you different? What do you mean by that Blythe? What do you mean by you were negative? You thought you were being negative.

Blythe: I think I was being negative about my, myself and, I don't know that even carried myself with confidence and I don't think that other people saw me that way.

I think other people saw me as confident and bubbly and having fun. And, and, I said last time that I like to make other people feel good. But I think I was so focused on others that I wasn't worried about how I was feeling inside. And so, I have finally just decided, well, you know what, I am what I am.

So here she is.

Kim Gravel: Okay, here she is. I like here she is. I like me some Blythe. All right. So talk to me about, how you've made steps, if any, about moving towards your calling and purpose, because you are right in the throes, baby girl. Of raising children. So have you, how do you feel about that?

Are you putting that on the back burner? Are you just dabbling in it? Are you, tell me how you feel about moving forward and the more that you want of your life.

Blythe: Yes. Well, in the, in the beginning, like I was coming off The Kim Gravel Show on a high, I was like, Oh, let's do this. We've got this. We are just going to be, yeah.

And in the beginning I was like, I making plans and everything and, I, I still am. And so I can say that during our videos, we've, we've made a lot, a lot more videos than you all have seen. We just, we make them about 87 times and decide that we like one,

Carrie: you know, those videos that we made as a kid, Blythe would always be the one to be like, okay, wait, let's start over.

Let's start over. I'm like, let's just keep going. So, that's. I think why we thrive on live.

Blythe: Cause well, yeah, you can't, it's just all out there. What you see is what you get and you can't come back like with the videos. We're like, Oh gosh, delete that.

Kim Gravel: Well, that's why I want to talk to y'all about today.

Cause y'all sent me one video, right? Why haven't you sent more just out of curiosity?

Blythe: Well, we've made more. They're there.

Kim Gravel: Okay. Okay.

Carrie: One of them, we filmed an entire face of makeup and it was about 13 minutes long and we were like, okay, well, we'll take it and edit it. And we can never figure out, like, how to edit it.

And her 11 year olds trying to help us. And we're eventually going to go talk to the speech and debate coach at Cherokee. Like, can you seem like maybe, you know, computers. Could you help? And, never really got there. So, do you want to talk?

Blythe: You were doing fine.

So, yes, anyway, we, we've got, like I said, we've got all the videos. I just need to, we need to throw them out there probably and just see.

Kim Gravel: That's why I asked you the question. This is a very Typical response and a typical, I call it gig lag. Okay. You know how you have jet lag and you come off of a plane and you feel like in a different time zone and you're just lagging. I call it, you know, gig lag, meaning what you're doing in your life.

 You just, you get going and you have this burst of energy, like you said, Blythe, and then the realization steps in and the work steps in. And so, I knew this was going to happen. That's why I've purposely waited and waited and waited. This is how coaching happens. This the NFL, the NBA, pageant coaching and everything.

Everybody's excited at first.

Okay, the second step is always harder than the first. The third step is easier than the second. And by the 10th step, you're doing it like clockwork. So you are still in the in between stuck step of one and two, which is the excitement and the actual, how do I do this? Everybody got a dream. And people don't mind doing the work, but once they start living in that dream and start working in that dream, they have huge perfectionism and expectation issues that they're thinking, Oh, this is not good enough to be a step 10, but you ain't trying to be a step 10.

You're trying to be a step two. Does that make sense?

Carrie: Yes.

Kim Gravel: And so you've done the work, but you have made an excuse and put it on the shelf because you think you're not still not good enough. That is exactly right. I'm serious. I'd love to know what you, what your thoughts about it's like, why not send all the videos?

Carrie: Yeah, I had a Celine Dion impression.

Kim Gravel: Well, you're gonna, by the end of this, you're gonna send the videos and Zac's gonna edit them. But I'm just wanting to know, why not the press send?

Blythe: Yeah, I think it just, God, it's scary. It's, it's like, oh my goodness, I don't really feel like this is our best work.

It is some work. Is it our best work? I don't know. Because we are just, we're silly. We're silly on there. And it's just like, I don't know that other people will find it is...

Kim Gravel: I'm getting ready to meet with a gentleman who has 30 million followers on YouTube and everything he does is silly. Every single thing he does is silly.

Like I'm meeting with him to, to, to figure out how to launch his brand. He has 30 million followers on YouTube and everything he does is silly. This, this is what stops most people from living in their purpose and calling and being truly successful is because. They're looking at the, you're looking at yourself, Blythe and Carrie, through a lens that no one else is looking at you at.

Do you know how many people would love to see your videos and love to like your videos and love to, to really, connect with you on that level?

Blythe: I guess I never thought about that.

Kim Gravel: No, I'm serious. I'm serious. Like if y'all were here, if y'all were here on Kim of Queens or at the Paget place or wherever, and I was coaching you guys, this would be the tough love moment. This would be that moment where I was like, okay, girl, now look, you say you want to do this, but how bad do you want it? You tell me. You tell me. How bad do y'all want it? Cause y'all can have it. Cause you're both gorgeous and hilarious and fabulous.

Blythe: So sweet, Kim. Thank you.

Thank you.

Kim Gravel: How bad do you want it?

Carrie: How bad as you want it.

Blythe: I want it as bad as you want it.

Carrie: All right. All right. We want it bad, kim!

Zac Miller: They're doing bits right here, they're just doing bits, this is great.

Kim Gravel: That's what I'm saying. I mean, this is hilarious right here. You know, I mean, but they don't even know that.

They think they're just being silly and they're not. You're being so relatable. I mean, who comes on a podcast and gets like, lamb blasted about not going to Step 2? And going, I don't know, how bad do we want it? How bad do we want it?

You see what I'm saying?

Blythe: Yes, yes. Well, I want it real bad.

Carrie: We do have another pageant lined up.

As far as like live work, we do have a, our, our next pageant line in August. I don't know if it'll be an MC gig. It might be a performance gig. In combination with that, we sing too. So they have us, yes. And I've been working on getting a worship night at the church where we can kind of start our, like Shonda Pierce, Mark Lowry, Kim Gravel.

 Worship and, and make people laugh type of, that's kind of where my hand goes, but I'm, you know, this is you.

Blythe: Well, pull me on.

Carrie: Well, you seem to be doing that to me.

So anyhow,

Kim Gravel: I think you guys have found your, you know, your buddy, I think you guys have found your sweet spot and where you both feel most confident is with each other.

I mean, it's yin and yang, you know what I'm saying? It's so, I mean, I think. And that happened very organically the last show but what I'm going to challenge y'all with on this show is to say What do you think is next for you and as a coach? This is where I would push you out of your comfort zone and say to you How are you going to get to step to get to work?

Blythe: It sounds like we need to be making videos and making making the time and planning a little bit.

Kim Gravel: I don't think so.

Blythe: If we work too much, we get very rigid, so.

Kim Gravel: I think you've got a whole bucket full of videos. I just don't know why you didn't send them. There's your block. That's where you're stopping right there.

It's not that you're afraid to do the work. You both are hard workers. I can tell you both want to do it, but what's the block?

Carrie: Well, I don't know. I just, I know that when we, we just wanted to do, I don't know, justice kind of to it to make sense.

Blythe: That's true. I didn't want to let anybody down. I don't know.

Once you kind of spill, I think. Maybe I know she felt this way, but, I felt it a little bit like once you kind of spill like, oh, this is our dream and everything. It's like, well, you want your best work out there. You don't want to be like, good God, put it back. That ain't it. You know, so.

Kim Gravel: Let me tell, let me tell y'all, and I'm being a little tough on you and I'm doing it on purpose.

You're experiencing imposter syndrome. You're experiencing, I say I want to do this, but I am not qualified to do this. I'm not good enough to do this. That's what you're experiencing, which is 10, 000% so flipping normal. This is, I'm telling you, this is the part where people don't get passed. This is it. You are right here at a part where you are sitting on the cusp of the next level of everything that you want and you are stopping yourself based on the imposter syndrome and the expectation that you think others have that you have, you are so far beyond what you think you are.

You have a person who's in entertainment and you have a person that Zac who's produced it for 20 plus years. We're telling you y'all got something. We're professionals telling you that. So why are you listening to your own, the lies you're telling yourself? Cause you think you're not good enough

Blythe: and that was, during the last podcast is what I, I'm not good enough.

I'm not worthy.

Carrie: And we thought we were, you know, you thought you were, you know, on the up and up on all of that. And to know that our actions are showing us that we're not past a lot of that.

Kim Gravel: Because, because your body and your, and your thought life, they're habitual, even though you, like you go and you work out your muscles.

After week one, your sore is all get out and your body reverts to, Oh, you don't need to work out. Just sleep. Don't do this. Don't do this. Everything about you habitually, it, that's a, that's hard to change that trajectory. And so you've been saying to yourself, I'm not good enough. I can't do this. I have no idea how to do this.

I don't know how to, you would say that before. And then you started doing the videos. I don't know how to edit them. I don't know if they're good enough. That's, that's that habitual negative self talk.

Blythe: That's so true. I've struggled with that my whole life. And talking to you, I, I started, I started looking at it and I noticed it in my kids.

Kim Gravel: Ok.

Blythe: I felt like I had passed that down a little bit. Like they were, and I believe in them. And I'm just like, girls, you can do whatever you set your mind to put in the work. You are, you're beautiful. You're, talented and worthy.

Kim Gravel: You're, worthy, worthy. Come on with it. Yes.

Blythe: You're worthy and I feel like I, I pour into them, but I need to start walking the walk so that they see, they see what.

Kim Gravel: You're already walking the walk like you're already doing it.

You're already doing it. You think you're doing it. You already are doing it.

Blythe: I know I'm gonna cry.

Kim Gravel: You're already doing it. You've done it. You've done it.

You're trying to, you have this picture of your mind of what it needs to look like or be like. Just press send, just press post on the videos, just get it out there. That's part, that is such a huge part of success, is just doing it afraid.

Carrie: Oh, yes, we say that all the time. Mama listens to Joyce Meyer every morning.

Kim Gravel: Isn't it the truth though? Joyce Meyer don't lie. Nope, they don't. You have to do it afraid.

Blythe: I know. Well... She's right. And, I think I was like, we, I, why was I worried, I was worried about likes, too. I was like, oh, I don't hate it.

Kim Gravel: So after we posted it, you posted, you didn't get a lot of likes?

Blythe: Well, I don't know. I don't know what I expected. What did I expect? And then I was like, okay, well, maybe it's not as great as what we're thinking.

You know, maybe we don't know what we're doing.

Kim Gravel: God allows us to go through this growth process to A, see how bad do we want it? And B, to prepare us for the platform. And you girls have the looks, the charisma, the, the kind heartedness, the hilarity to really be on a large platform, but he's got a test that.

That he can trust you with it when you have it. I'm going to give y'all some homework and you've got to, to, you, you don't let me down and don't let yourself down and you're going to bring it. You're going to send us all those videos and we're going to help you edit it and help you polish them up and we're going to give you some feedback, but if you want this.

We will continue coaching you and helping you and showing you, you know, how to perfect or, or not perfect, but how to purposefully get better. But how bad do you really want it?

Carrie: Bad? Okay. Yes. Good. Yes, we do. I

Blythe: I do want it. Yes, I know. I do. And I, I'm glad that you said that, I put in the work because I was feeling like I had this point.

Pointed everybody around me because I didn't understand it. Cause I didn't press send.

Kim Gravel: Oh gosh. So no, I, I knew, I knew what that was going to look like and be like, and I wanted to reach out and talk to you. And I thought, no, I'm not going to do it. I'm going to see if they'll send them. I'm going to see if they'll just, I'm going to see how much they will step out and believe in themselves.

That's the thing, you'll get over people not believing in you. You can get over that, but you'll never get over not believing in yourself. You have to really, really know that you're called to something more. And look, is, is it gonna be a video influencer career? I don't know. I don't know, but I do know that's the start, and that's your open door, and that's your opportunity that has met you both, and I know that you both are absolutely gifted and talented at this.

I do know that.

Blythe: Thank you, Kim.

Kim Gravel: And you know what? You know that too.

Blythe: I think we, I think we do when we're up, when we're up on stage and we're, and we're having fun, don't you feel like, yeah,

Carrie: I'm like, you're so good. My gosh, you're gorgeous. Everyone loves you.

Kim Gravel: Know why? Because you are operating in the natural.

So when you're doing that, and it's just flowing from you, cause you probably don't rehearse. You probably don't, you probably just comes out, comes up and okay. See. Just comes up and comes out. So what's happening is when we are our real, true, authentic selves, that's when we feel the most exposed, but that's when it's the absolute best.

Carrie: Yes. I literally said that in an interview one time.

Kim Gravel: Well, it's true.

Carrie: When I'm up here and I'm competing, I'm the best version of myself. And I feel like my most self, I'm the person I want to be in it. It feels like myself.

Kim Gravel: So when y'all are, when y'all were on stage performing Blythe and Carrie, does it just come up and out?

Like, are you having to think I'm saying this? I'm saying this?

Carrie: No, not at all. No. And I don't know where it comes. We was just like going, I don't even know where.

Blythe: You did a Scottish accent. The last time we didn't say it, I don't even know. And then Kim, she had a total Allysin and Jo moment because she, mixed up Ireland and Scotland.

Carrie: That's okay. They wouldn't care. They would love that.

Kim Gravel: But that's what I'm saying. That's what I'm saying. So I'm telling y'all The reason that I'm successful is just I'm authentic and real it has nothing to do with talent It's just, it is. I'm very exposed and people are connected to that because people can relate to the things that I'm saying because they're very real and authentic.

So you're just going through that. This is it. I'm telling y'all, you're just going through, we're going to push through this and we're going to push through this vulnerability, you know. Remorse and we're going to just do that in a video form because that's how you're going to reach a lot of people.

So we're going to do what we do live on stage, live on social media. Okay. No, I'm serious. I mean, to answer the question, don't be afraid to toot your own horn. Don't y'all know you're good at what you do.

Carrie: Yeah, I mean, like, we know that we make people laugh and we know that they enjoy it. We enjoy and

I don't know that we've ever get farther than that, you know, because we're just like, oh, we're just up there to sisters having fun.

But I don't think people really know that in our hearts. We're going to hire us again and again and again and help us to cultivate this into something that we can continue to work with.

Kim Gravel: So you do know that you're good at what you do. I'm still wanting to hear that. What y'all really think about that.

Blythe: Yes. I said, my family is talented and I truly believe that. I think we all have some.

Kim Gravel: I believe it. I think you're funny. I think you're funny together. I think it's, it's. It's comical, it's delightful, and it is something that you could do. I'm not saying, will it happen overnight tomorrow? No, but it can. I have seen so many people.

I can name you people that I knew that either I interviewed or talked to. I mean, I've got a friend, Leanne Morgan, who's been plugging away to tens of tens her whole entire career and just overnight. She's got a Netflix, but I mean, it just seemed like it was overnight, but she put in the work. She pressed send many times when it didn't work.

So, you know, and, and I want to tell y'all, you know, if you say, okay, Kim, I don't feel comfortable doing the videos and editing, do live videos. Do them on the spot, start building an audience where people can say, Hey, and ask y'all questions. Even if there's five people on the live feed, the next time there'll be 15, the next time there'll be 20.

So I'm going to challenge y'all, you're going to send Zac the videos, but you're also going to do a couple of lives and I'm going to give you some, some, you know, at least one a month, but Zac, they really probably should do one a week if they could. Right?

Zac Miller: Oh as many as you can do. I mean, you just, it's about flexing the muscle.

Kim Gravel: Yeah, we're invested in seeing you girls become, you know, what you desire in your heart, and that might not look like what you think it looks like, but it's there.

Blythe: Well, that's, I do have a question, Kim.

Kim Gravel: Sure. Go for it.

Carrie: So, what do we, this is deep and shallow at the same time, what do we have to say, kind of my question, you know?

 With our frames, we had our frames and with, your beautiful makeup. That's so easy for us to talk about, but I'm wondering like, where do we, what's our, you know, where do we go? Like what's our direction kind of thing?

Kim Gravel: Okay. Cause what do you struggle with?

Carrie: We love being moms and we making people laugh, but how do we, you know what I mean?

Kim Gravel: Okay. What do you struggle with? In life?

Carrie: I mean, we're big on the confidence train.

Blythe: Um, I always, I kind of struggle with, I, I worry what people think about me. I said that in the last podcast, I worry I'm not good enough.

Carrie: I mean, just there's motherhood stuff.

Kim Gravel: Oh, you know, what motherhood stuff, what motherhood stuff, particularly.

Carrie: Fertility and infant loss on my heart.

 Those are things that, I don't know that you could make a comedy routine about, but , you know.

Kim Gravel: Oh, you sure can. Oh, you sure can.

You're gonna go and talk about things like that from your point of view and how you have joy through it, guys.

You have the most beautiful content all around you. Blythe, our episode that we did, Zac, do you want to speak to how connecting and how impactful your episode was? Do you want to kind of share with them?

Zac Miller: We get so many emails from fans, and I know that... Certain episodes get these just really powerful, really heartfelt emails about how people who watch the episode and listen to the episode connect with it.

And I can't tell you the depth that folks were responding to your words, to your situation, saying that they understand, that they feel it too. And I mean, that's a big reason why Gear back on the show now because I really think this is a journey that you're on and it's a journey that you're on with Hundreds or thousands of other people who are watching this and saying I agree that is me.

This is my struggle I can't hit send on whatever that thing is either How can I get over that.

Kim Gravel: I'm going to give you, I'm going to give you three or four topics to do some lives on. And what you're going to do is when you do them, I'm going to hop on too. And I'm, we're going to do them together.

I'm going to go and do them with you. I'm going to, I'm going to, I'm going to commit to really helping you have that confidence to step into your entertainment career. I think you can have one ladies. I really do. I wouldn't be doing this if I didn't. And I think you don't have to wait until your kids are grown.

I don't think you have to wait until you have enough money or editing skills. I don't think you have to wait. I think everything you need, you already have. And then some, I think you just need that push off the cliff to start doing it. I was training a girl from Miss Georgia and, she'd aged out.

And I said to her, I said, something's not right with this. I don't, she got first runner up to Miss Georgia and, just something wasn't right with it. Long story short, she got another shot. They raged the age limit. I'm going to tell y'all something. You have it in you to do whatever you want to do. I think one, you don't know exactly what to do and two, I don't think you know That what you do bring to the table is interesting, but I'm here to tell you, there's yes to both of those answers, the answers to both of those questions.

You have what it takes and you can do it. This is what we're going to do. We're going to start doing a couple of lives together and Zac, we'll, we'll, we'll, we'll do that so we can tape them so we can download them and show them on the podcast, but we're going to do a couple of lives. I'm going to give you a couple of subjects to talk about.

So we're going to talk about, motherhood. This is what your homework is. I want y'all to make a, just talk about a topic about motherhood, come up with some things that, that funny stories about motherhood, things that are relatable to other people. We're gonna talk about motherhood. We're going to talk about self image, how we look in the mirror and do we like what we see?

Do we want to, you know, get better? Do we feel like we're tight 12 and loose 14? How do we function in, in a skinny world? And three, I want you to talk about, Your goals and dreams and how that connects to other people and their goals and dreams. Those are the three topics we're going to talk about.

You can take it any way you want to. But those are the three lives we're going to do before we get on this next, podcast together. And we're going to, we're going to help you increase your social media and show you that people want to hear what you see. You're also going to press send on those videos.

I want to see them. Are y'all willing to commit to that?

Blythe: Yes. Yes. Yes. I'm ready to get off this right now and go make some more videos.

Kim Gravel: That's what I'm saying. So we're going to have to just take those small steps forward because y'all truly can do this. The dream that you have in both of your hearts can come to pass.

We just need a little bit more coaching. Just a little bit

Blythe: more. Mm hmm. Yes. Yes. Oh my gosh. I'm so excited. Okay. I'm excited and then I've got to take that and, and go

Kim Gravel: forward. Yes. Well, we love you. We'll be in touch. Okay, Blythe and Carrie, we are doing, we're moving into step two. We've done step one. Step two is coming, girls.

Hang on.

Blythe: I'm ready. Alright. Let's do this.

Kim Gravel: I love y'all.

Okay, so Blythe and Carrie's act, they get stuck in that first, they want to do something, you want to have a goal, you want to step into that, and then you stall. They're in that stall from step one to step two. That's what happens.

Zac Miller: I get it, Kim. I, I totally, totally get it. It's tough. And so many times in my career, in my life, I've been there.

You don't want to hit send.

Kim Gravel: You don't want to hit send, but I'm telling you, do it, do it afraid, hit send, make sure that, you know, and I loved it cause I was a little hard on them and they felt a little exposed. But that's a good thing. That's a good thing. That's what any coach does is pushes you to your uncomfortable.

It's when, it's when you get uncomfortable is when you make changes. It's not the easy cushy times. It's always when you feel like, you know, and I've done it where I've made people, I've just ticked them off. They get so mad at me. I'm like, well, you're going to get mad. But that's what the problem is.

You know, I mean, you have to really push yourself. No one's going to push it for push you for you. No one is going to, make you do it. No one is going to show up and, you know, even encourage you to do it. You have to, push yourself out of that comfort zone. And so we're we're going to help Blythe and Carrie go to that next level.

And I can't wait to see their videos because I promise you, I think they've got... They got something to say.

Zac Miller: They do. Hey, Kim, what do you do when you feel like you're like, what is your version of not wanting to hit send? Like you, you make so much stuff. You're creating, you're constantly creating stuff.

You're constantly doing, you know, obviously you've got your fashion line, you've got your beauty line, you've got the podcast, you've got the book, like that's so much stuff. What do you do to keep yourself motivated?

Kim Gravel: It's hard to stay motivated, but I know my true calling. So when you know why you're here, it, I have felt such fulfillment from doing those things.

That's what Blythe and Carrie have to do. They have to do it to the point. They see the fulfillment. They see themselves, being successful. And that doesn't mean lots of likes. You might have two or three likes, but you've listened to what you say and say, oh, that's good. It's not about what people say that you are.

It's about what you. Move that you're moving from the place that you are. It's, it's not about people going, Oh, Kim is great. It's about knowing that before I even start, that's the key because that's what keeps you going. Look, everybody, if I can do it, anybody can do it. Anybody, anybody. I mean, I could give you example after example of people who have tried, failed, tried and failed.

People who, who have, who, Michael Jordan, he got cut from his high school basketball team when he's in the 10th grade. Come on. Tom Brady, you know, he wasn't even the first draft pick. He was low on the totem pole. I'm just telling you, it's, it's not about where you start. It's how you finish. But if you don't ever take the second step in anything.

You'll never know and you'll live in regret wondering what if don't do that. Take the step. Trust me on that one. You'll never regret the steps you take. You'll always regret the ones that you never do. So I love you guys. I'm going to tell somebody who's listening to this and you need to press send too.

Send the videos, whatever that is for you, send them, take that first step. Alright y'all, we love you so much. Tell a friend about The Kim Gravel Show. Until next time, you know, walk boldly in your confidence. Cause baby, you got it.

Carrie: Hey everybody, we're gonna do a little makeup tutorial. I've already got mine done.

Blythe: Right, yes, I'm the one that has to be left without the makeup.

Carrie: And so one of us had to be the sacrificial lamb here, okay.

Blythe: Feels like it's always me.

Carrie: Well, you take it with such grace.

Blythe: Right, well, that is true. How's my arm looking?

Carrie: Oh, oh, so skinny. I know. And then fill.

Blythe: Sure. Right, this should be seen. Not that a little nut cake can't help.

Carrie: Well, that's it. Hope you like our faces.

Blythe: We hope you like the makeup and us.

Kim Gravel: The Kim Gravel Show is produced and edited by Zac Miller at Uncommon Audio. Our associate producer is Kathleen Grant, the Brunette Exec. Production help from Emily Bredin and Sara Noto.

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